Hi, I can't say I've ever been a fan on how it looks, bit that's the way it is so not something I have lingered on. But to have it said to me has hit a nerve.
We don't have children and never will, this was something that he said he wanted when I met him but gradually changed his mind over time to not wanting them at all. I was never sure if I wanted but would have liked the option to be left open.
My self confidence has never been great with skin issues etc, which meant growing up being bullied. It just makes it difficult when an area o your body that is so private to you is cristised. I now wonder if it's just me he's said that too or wether he's been like that with previous partners. Needless to say I am finding it hard to swallow that my entire body is a freak show. I've always been self conscious about how I look and covering up parts when unsightly.
He doesn't seem to realise how cutting his remark was. But it does explain why he doesn't advance sexually on me. And why I have such problems turning him on, because I now know I actually don't, and when I'm near him he is repulsed (as he puts it).
I'm with him because yes I love him. But I no longer feel like I am myself, I have become something I never thought I would.
My husband doesn't 'do' therapy. Apparently he tried it with an ex and swore he'd never do it again, so where does that leave me? Am I not worth trying to work things out?
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Hi, I can't say I've ever been a fan on how it looks, bit that's the way it is so not something I have lingered on. But to have it said to me has hit a nerve.
October 10, 2011 - 1:01amWe don't have children and never will, this was something that he said he wanted when I met him but gradually changed his mind over time to not wanting them at all. I was never sure if I wanted but would have liked the option to be left open.
My self confidence has never been great with skin issues etc, which meant growing up being bullied. It just makes it difficult when an area o your body that is so private to you is cristised. I now wonder if it's just me he's said that too or wether he's been like that with previous partners. Needless to say I am finding it hard to swallow that my entire body is a freak show. I've always been self conscious about how I look and covering up parts when unsightly.
He doesn't seem to realise how cutting his remark was. But it does explain why he doesn't advance sexually on me. And why I have such problems turning him on, because I now know I actually don't, and when I'm near him he is repulsed (as he puts it).
I'm with him because yes I love him. But I no longer feel like I am myself, I have become something I never thought I would.
My husband doesn't 'do' therapy. Apparently he tried it with an ex and swore he'd never do it again, so where does that leave me? Am I not worth trying to work things out?
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