What a story to tell. Your Mother sounds like she has been through much more than most of us will ever expect to in our lifetime. Based on everything you shared, there appears to be a lot of resentment and mental instability to deal with the many things that she has gone through in her life. Not one of those things are easy and to keep adding to them is just unbelievable that she has kept it together (as much as possible) until now.
Perhaps, the best suggestion would be counseling first and foremost. I believe that baby steps would help if she was willing but there is a lot to go through with your Mom. Sadness is horrible and she certainly needs help but I think mentally would be the first approach I would try.
You one the other hand need help also since you are being consumed by your Mother's daily rituals. Much like taking care of a drug addict or alcoholic, we (the helpers) need to digress also and find our own outlets. Al-Anon is a great facet for you, it helped me before just understanding how we have to remove ourselves for OURSELVES. Here is their website http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/.
Please keep us posted. My heart goes out to you and your Mom. Many blessings!
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Hi Honey Well,
January 21, 2012 - 9:46amWhat a story to tell. Your Mother sounds like she has been through much more than most of us will ever expect to in our lifetime. Based on everything you shared, there appears to be a lot of resentment and mental instability to deal with the many things that she has gone through in her life. Not one of those things are easy and to keep adding to them is just unbelievable that she has kept it together (as much as possible) until now.
Perhaps, the best suggestion would be counseling first and foremost. I believe that baby steps would help if she was willing but there is a lot to go through with your Mom. Sadness is horrible and she certainly needs help but I think mentally would be the first approach I would try.
You one the other hand need help also since you are being consumed by your Mother's daily rituals. Much like taking care of a drug addict or alcoholic, we (the helpers) need to digress also and find our own outlets. Al-Anon is a great facet for you, it helped me before just understanding how we have to remove ourselves for OURSELVES. Here is their website http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/.
Please keep us posted. My heart goes out to you and your Mom. Many blessings!
Missie
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