Welcome to EmpowHER! I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Unfortunately, it seems to be a common frustration and there is never a right answer.
Moving in together could have made things boring for him, simple as that. But that isn't love. Sex isn't love either, but if it's that important to you then I wouldn't say it's too harsh that it may make or break a relationship.
Have you tried talking to him about it? Maybe there is something that's bothering him on a deeper level. Oftentimes, a disinterest in sex could be the result of emotional turmoil. Has anything else major happened besides the move-in?
Have you tried letting it go for awhile? Maybe people find it unattractive to have someone constantly asking them for sex. Try to set a date in the future that you will bring it up again, but not before that point.
In any case, you are not wrong for wanting to have sex with your boyfriend who you love. It is not okay for him to put you down.
Sometimes it helps to reach out to others who are going through the same thing. Visit our sex & relationship group to connect: https://www.empowher.com/groups/Sex-and-Relationships
Best of luck to you & keep us updated. Maybe you'll find a magic answer!
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Hi TinaB,
Welcome to EmpowHER! I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Unfortunately, it seems to be a common frustration and there is never a right answer.
Moving in together could have made things boring for him, simple as that. But that isn't love. Sex isn't love either, but if it's that important to you then I wouldn't say it's too harsh that it may make or break a relationship.
Have you tried talking to him about it? Maybe there is something that's bothering him on a deeper level. Oftentimes, a disinterest in sex could be the result of emotional turmoil. Has anything else major happened besides the move-in?
Have you tried letting it go for awhile? Maybe people find it unattractive to have someone constantly asking them for sex. Try to set a date in the future that you will bring it up again, but not before that point.
In any case, you are not wrong for wanting to have sex with your boyfriend who you love. It is not okay for him to put you down.
Sometimes it helps to reach out to others who are going through the same thing. Visit our sex & relationship group to connect: https://www.empowher.com/groups/Sex-and-Relationships
March 21, 2012 - 6:57pmBest of luck to you & keep us updated. Maybe you'll find a magic answer!
Danielle
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