Thank you for sharing your story. Personality disorders are hard to overcome especially with what you have been through with bullying and your parent. However, I see a lot of good coming out of your disorder such as being a model and trying to attend social gatherings. My first thought when you indicated that people look at you in public may be due to the fact that you are attractive rather than a negative connotation although you are so used to the "bullying" pattern that you may be drawing people away from you.
As a therapist, you will be dealing with individuals such as yourself. If you had to talk to someone who was also suffering from avoidance, what would you suggest? Most people can be irrational about their disorders, while you have a grip on it...you just don't know how to take that step forward to move forward and create bonds with people.
You must understand that all relationships (friends, or sexual) will have their ups and downs. We have to realize that relationships are based on trust and learning to begin to trust others may be benefical to you. Don't forget that everyone is human though and what you may imagine, may not occur. I haved moved around a lot in my life and am forced to create new relationships if it is personal, love interests or work relationships. Guess what I also do? I go to school in order to keep the lonliness to a minimum. Do you have a pet? Perhaps a dog? This is another good way to always force yourself out into the world as the dog has to use the bathroom so you are on a daily routine of getting outside and not holding yourself inside the house.
These are just suggestions, although you will have to rely on yourself to understand that you are a beautiful person and the bullies of life and/or your parent that was rude, is just a bump in the road. Don't allow those experiences to rule the rest of your life. There are many people out there that are lacking as they have not had the chance to meet you.
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Hi Anonymous,
Thank you for sharing your story. Personality disorders are hard to overcome especially with what you have been through with bullying and your parent. However, I see a lot of good coming out of your disorder such as being a model and trying to attend social gatherings. My first thought when you indicated that people look at you in public may be due to the fact that you are attractive rather than a negative connotation although you are so used to the "bullying" pattern that you may be drawing people away from you.
As a therapist, you will be dealing with individuals such as yourself. If you had to talk to someone who was also suffering from avoidance, what would you suggest? Most people can be irrational about their disorders, while you have a grip on it...you just don't know how to take that step forward to move forward and create bonds with people.
You must understand that all relationships (friends, or sexual) will have their ups and downs. We have to realize that relationships are based on trust and learning to begin to trust others may be benefical to you. Don't forget that everyone is human though and what you may imagine, may not occur. I haved moved around a lot in my life and am forced to create new relationships if it is personal, love interests or work relationships. Guess what I also do? I go to school in order to keep the lonliness to a minimum. Do you have a pet? Perhaps a dog? This is another good way to always force yourself out into the world as the dog has to use the bathroom so you are on a daily routine of getting outside and not holding yourself inside the house.
These are just suggestions, although you will have to rely on yourself to understand that you are a beautiful person and the bullies of life and/or your parent that was rude, is just a bump in the road. Don't allow those experiences to rule the rest of your life. There are many people out there that are lacking as they have not had the chance to meet you.
Good luck,
April 21, 2012 - 9:26amMissie
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