Hi there,
Obviously it seems you have been through quite an ordeal at such a young age. I was saddened to read your story. In my opinion, I think you should tell your boyfriend, WHEN YOU ARE READY. Even though he is your boyfriend, that is a very private thing. Then again, if he notices your insecurities and reluctancy to kiss him, he might wonder that it is about him, so i would make sure he doesnt think that. If he truly loves you, then he wouldn't possibly be mad at you. And i would strongly suggest possibly consulting a school counselor or an adult that will listen to you and what you have to say. As for telling the police, well that's up to you entirely. if you want the scumbag in jail or brought to justice in some way, then i would consider telling the police. but possibly starting just with an adult figure like a counselor or someone. if you were bleeding during your pregnancy, that often means you had a miscarriage, but the fetus would still be present in your stomach, so consulting a doctor is a GREAT idea, to make sure that you are healthy and okay. also, i just want you to know that just because you were raped, doesn't mean you can't wait to have sex again until you are married, just like you wanted to. rape is NOT the same as losing your virginity in my opinion. there was NOTHING you could have done to prevent what happened to you. he took advantage of a very young girl. i do not know if you are religious, but you could also consider talking to a pastor or preacher of a church, and praying about it, if that's something you do. any form of outlet would be good. i hope that you can find the help that you need to move on with your life, and i hope that i was able to give you some useful information.
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Hi there,
May 13, 2012 - 11:57pmObviously it seems you have been through quite an ordeal at such a young age. I was saddened to read your story. In my opinion, I think you should tell your boyfriend, WHEN YOU ARE READY. Even though he is your boyfriend, that is a very private thing. Then again, if he notices your insecurities and reluctancy to kiss him, he might wonder that it is about him, so i would make sure he doesnt think that. If he truly loves you, then he wouldn't possibly be mad at you. And i would strongly suggest possibly consulting a school counselor or an adult that will listen to you and what you have to say. As for telling the police, well that's up to you entirely. if you want the scumbag in jail or brought to justice in some way, then i would consider telling the police. but possibly starting just with an adult figure like a counselor or someone. if you were bleeding during your pregnancy, that often means you had a miscarriage, but the fetus would still be present in your stomach, so consulting a doctor is a GREAT idea, to make sure that you are healthy and okay. also, i just want you to know that just because you were raped, doesn't mean you can't wait to have sex again until you are married, just like you wanted to. rape is NOT the same as losing your virginity in my opinion. there was NOTHING you could have done to prevent what happened to you. he took advantage of a very young girl. i do not know if you are religious, but you could also consider talking to a pastor or preacher of a church, and praying about it, if that's something you do. any form of outlet would be good. i hope that you can find the help that you need to move on with your life, and i hope that i was able to give you some useful information.
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