My mom is a flip flopper. She can be a caring person who will give her last dime to someone she thinks needs it. Then she'll turn 180 degrees. Like many boomers, I grew up with physical punishment and don't feel any worse for most of that since for the most part it wasn't severe whippings. The emotional abuse, head games, and manipulations on the offspring is what leaves the deep scars.
Now she have been living with me for over two years. Most of the time it's okay. She much nicer now that she's frail and in need of some assistance. She still has flip flops; she still tries to be puppet master; and she still tries to play head games.
I'm at the point where I have to make her either, 1) find someplace else to live (my brother will have nothing to do with her; my sister is 2,000 miles away and probably will refuse to take her); or my mom is going to have to choose an attorney or elder advocate to advice her to negotiate with me to obtain a durable power of attorney. She doesn't trust me and turns on me, yet I am the only person who will still go around (or....accept her into my home since she lives with me). I won't abandon her, but I I can no longer jeapordize my own mental health for this Dr. Jeykle and Ms. Hyde.
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My mom is a flip flopper. She can be a caring person who will give her last dime to someone she thinks needs it. Then she'll turn 180 degrees. Like many boomers, I grew up with physical punishment and don't feel any worse for most of that since for the most part it wasn't severe whippings. The emotional abuse, head games, and manipulations on the offspring is what leaves the deep scars.
Now she have been living with me for over two years. Most of the time it's okay. She much nicer now that she's frail and in need of some assistance. She still has flip flops; she still tries to be puppet master; and she still tries to play head games.
I'm at the point where I have to make her either, 1) find someplace else to live (my brother will have nothing to do with her; my sister is 2,000 miles away and probably will refuse to take her); or my mom is going to have to choose an attorney or elder advocate to advice her to negotiate with me to obtain a durable power of attorney. She doesn't trust me and turns on me, yet I am the only person who will still go around (or....accept her into my home since she lives with me). I won't abandon her, but I I can no longer jeapordize my own mental health for this Dr. Jeykle and Ms. Hyde.
Just don't know what else I can do. I am used up.
August 28, 2012 - 9:48amThis Comment
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