I am sorry I disappeared after Thursday. I was visiting and am currently visiting my relatives. However, I did end up having a talk with him and asked him for more time which he agreed to. He was apologizing for having over-reacted and though, I live only 25 minutes away from him here. I chose not to meet him over the weekend to think things through. Whenever I did not respond, he contacted me himself to make sure I was fine and was leaving but because I have been quiet. I think he is gradually getting the hint that I may not be following through with this relationship. I have talked to my family, peers, and even my professors and will end this relationship I am not sure whether tomorrow or next week depending on how gracefully I can end it. My main concern with him has been specifically how my relationship with his mother will be and the issue of mistrust. Those were my two concerns and I brought them up during our conversation but chose not to debate or as he said 'resolve' the issues that led to us disagreeing and arguing on the first place. He was accomodating and told me that he will always want to be happy but I could tell that he was in desperate want of saving whatever we had left. I will gently end the relationship sometime this week and move on with my career and will date more open-minded men in the future - I am sure they exist - I may have been looking at the wrong types of men. But I am only 26 and I count this a learning experience and something that I can carry with me for the rest of my life - I only wish it didnt have to end this way because I know he genuinely loves and cares for me but his anger issues and issues with his family will constantly place a strain in our relationship. In addition, his demand to prioritize him over my own family and keep our relationship in isolation is not a healthy relationship and not one that I want. It has been strange and hard since I did share some good memories with him of laughter and teasing, but these issues will always be a barrier between us. I had asked him for a couple of weeks to think these things through especially because I wasnt even sure if I even wanted this relationship. In the two days in which we had not talked, he had told me that he had missed me and realized how much he loved me. However, I have learned from past relationships that these are sometimes trigger words there to put me in a guilty position. I have been very formally texting him so that I can logically, gracefully, and respectfully end this relationship. I will not tolerate any man demeaning my career or my family especially my mother. I will still take maybe a week more to think of this through but I think I know what the right thing to do is. Please let me know that I am thinking in the right track or not?
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Hi Susan,
I am sorry I disappeared after Thursday. I was visiting and am currently visiting my relatives. However, I did end up having a talk with him and asked him for more time which he agreed to. He was apologizing for having over-reacted and though, I live only 25 minutes away from him here. I chose not to meet him over the weekend to think things through. Whenever I did not respond, he contacted me himself to make sure I was fine and was leaving but because I have been quiet. I think he is gradually getting the hint that I may not be following through with this relationship. I have talked to my family, peers, and even my professors and will end this relationship I am not sure whether tomorrow or next week depending on how gracefully I can end it. My main concern with him has been specifically how my relationship with his mother will be and the issue of mistrust. Those were my two concerns and I brought them up during our conversation but chose not to debate or as he said 'resolve' the issues that led to us disagreeing and arguing on the first place. He was accomodating and told me that he will always want to be happy but I could tell that he was in desperate want of saving whatever we had left. I will gently end the relationship sometime this week and move on with my career and will date more open-minded men in the future - I am sure they exist - I may have been looking at the wrong types of men. But I am only 26 and I count this a learning experience and something that I can carry with me for the rest of my life - I only wish it didnt have to end this way because I know he genuinely loves and cares for me but his anger issues and issues with his family will constantly place a strain in our relationship. In addition, his demand to prioritize him over my own family and keep our relationship in isolation is not a healthy relationship and not one that I want. It has been strange and hard since I did share some good memories with him of laughter and teasing, but these issues will always be a barrier between us. I had asked him for a couple of weeks to think these things through especially because I wasnt even sure if I even wanted this relationship. In the two days in which we had not talked, he had told me that he had missed me and realized how much he loved me. However, I have learned from past relationships that these are sometimes trigger words there to put me in a guilty position. I have been very formally texting him so that I can logically, gracefully, and respectfully end this relationship. I will not tolerate any man demeaning my career or my family especially my mother. I will still take maybe a week more to think of this through but I think I know what the right thing to do is. Please let me know that I am thinking in the right track or not?
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