My girl and I have been together for 4 years.
In that period of time, the number of times a week we have sex is around 3 to 7, sometimes more, rarely less. For us, we both know it's important to each other and ourselves. We both love sex, a lot! She's recently undergone a uterus operation, so it was off the menu for a while - at least vaginal. She was under absolutely no pressure whatsoever to have sex of any kind while recovering, but she almost cried when I said we didn't have to do anything. Not because she thought it was a kind gesture, but because she said she really loves giving oral to me, using her hands, etc. You get the picture. She said if we couldn't have sex, she'd be hurt because she loves showing me how much she loves me through it. I am not complaining!
I was previously married, for 15 years. The last 4 years or so of that marriage, there was absolutely zero sex, not even any affection - no kisses, no hugs, nothing. 3 years prior to the 4, I was lucky if it was 2 or 3 times a month. It eventually dwindled down to 2 or 3 times a year, with her telling me to hurry up and get it finished with so she could go watch the TV!
Needless to say, resentment built up and even though I loved my wife, I refused to stay in a marriage where there was clearly no affection of any kind! It was the right choice!
As a couple, you absolutely MUST treat each other like best friends, every-single-day! Respect, loyalty and understanding are key elements of communication. Thankfully I have that now with someone I love deeply and I wake up every day a very happy and lucky man!
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My girl and I have been together for 4 years.
In that period of time, the number of times a week we have sex is around 3 to 7, sometimes more, rarely less. For us, we both know it's important to each other and ourselves. We both love sex, a lot! She's recently undergone a uterus operation, so it was off the menu for a while - at least vaginal. She was under absolutely no pressure whatsoever to have sex of any kind while recovering, but she almost cried when I said we didn't have to do anything. Not because she thought it was a kind gesture, but because she said she really loves giving oral to me, using her hands, etc. You get the picture. She said if we couldn't have sex, she'd be hurt because she loves showing me how much she loves me through it. I am not complaining!
I was previously married, for 15 years. The last 4 years or so of that marriage, there was absolutely zero sex, not even any affection - no kisses, no hugs, nothing. 3 years prior to the 4, I was lucky if it was 2 or 3 times a month. It eventually dwindled down to 2 or 3 times a year, with her telling me to hurry up and get it finished with so she could go watch the TV!
Needless to say, resentment built up and even though I loved my wife, I refused to stay in a marriage where there was clearly no affection of any kind! It was the right choice!
As a couple, you absolutely MUST treat each other like best friends, every-single-day! Respect, loyalty and understanding are key elements of communication. Thankfully I have that now with someone I love deeply and I wake up every day a very happy and lucky man!
November 16, 2015 - 5:40amThis Comment
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