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Well maybe not totally on topic, but here is my story.

I'm been married to my wife for 40 years. We have not had intercourse for at least 17 years--I've given up trying to keep track. The first time she refused my advances was on the second night of our honeymoon. Frequency dropped from that day forward, despite a rather active lifestyle in various forms of sex prior to marriage.

I stated masturbating daily in my early teens. Parents caught me and told me how wrong it was so changed to do it more, but in better privacy. Marriage comes with "free" sex I thought, so why not?

With no sex at home, every business trip i took I would go to the video store and rent tapes and a player to take back to my hotel room tho "help" me.

I'm 60 years old now and masturbating to porn, probably more than i did as a teen. At my age it takes longer, so have to carefully schedule my private time when she is not around.

Yes, my wife has caught me--about once a year. This results in a big fight about "why do you have to do that?" My response about having urges and desires and wanting to fulfill them with her mean nothing---she just replies, "just stop doing that."

So, am I addicted to porn--maybe. Should I go seek help--maybe, have considered it as it is consuming more and more of my time. Should I stop masturbating--not going to happen. Should I go seek a mistress--way to risky on so many levels. Should I divorce over no sex--not going to happen.

Sex is supposed to be part of marriage; even though I masturbate every day, I long to be with her intimately. Heck, I haven't even seen her fully naked for nearly 20 years despite all my attempts to join her in the shower and other initiations.

I'm open to suggestions.

September 4, 2016 - 7:18pm

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