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Hi Susan,
I did want to update you on my daughter's condition. After she returned back to Champaign, she obtained a few jobs and overworked herself. After I did take her to Linden Oaks for the intervention she refused, I feel it was a wake up call to her. She changed her major to kinesiology and nutrition, and started working in research labs at her college. She is very smart and is doing research in neuro-cognitive kinesiology, and how gut bacteria effects the brain. She still has issues with her eating but now has turned to a vegan diet, is training for a body building competition, teaches spin classes, and yoga. It is a healthier way to live but, I feel it is still to the extreme. Her self esteem with her body has not improved even though she is a beautiful, smart girl. I am currently taking mental health in nursing school. She does have her Father's personality. Her Father is definitely a narcissistic sociopath but , my daughter does seem to have a borderline personality disorder or bipolar. She thankfully has been seeing a psychiatrist. For a girl who is so smart, she does have issues decision making on caring for herself. The communication between us has been a little better this last year but does go from one extreme to the other. At times she will be extremely disrespectful, defensive, and irritable. or call to see how my day is or tell me about her day? She is conflicted when she speaks to her Father because of him trying to alienate her from me. When she comes home from school wants to spend time with her siblings and I. Her Father then makes her feel guilty about any financial help she receives from him, and only sees her when it is convenient for him. This makes her feel obligated to obey his wishes. I try my best to help her emotionally but, I am limited financially. She does shut me out if I state reality to her she avoids dealing with any past issues she needs to address from the divorce, and her self image. She has recently been accepted to a Chiropractic school. I am hoping this is only a stage that she will grow out of. I know she needs cognitive behavioral therapy. She makes progress difficult by over extending herself in other aspects of her life by school, working, research, and exercise, continuing the denial of dealing with the underlying problem. She will be 21 in June. I am concerned about her moving to another State without a support system. She knows what she wants in life and is determined to make her own way. Hopefully, if she is able to become independent from her Father she can gain control of her life and make the changes she needs to prosper. She seems a little better but I do know there is more work to be done. I really don't think it will happen until she realizes it and is willing to make a change. With her current coping skills and level of development, I am not sure if I should continue the course of action I have been taking with her? I am definitely not a professional in this field and have only learned the basics. What are your thoughts?

November 25, 2015 - 8:43pm

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