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Hello and thank you for sharing your question.  I understand what are difficult time this is for you and I'd love to give you some helpful tips that might help.

First of all, I'm glad to hear that you are seeking counseling, and you can definitely use that opportunity to get help.

Secondly, you will not heal unless your boyfriend becomes a part of the healing process instead of the one re-opening old wounds.  I suggest that you talk to your counselor about ways he can help you become more trusting and confident instead of more on-guard and uncomfortable.

At this point there is no need to "punish" him for alarming you that night.  From what you have said, I not think he meant you no harm.  BUT, since it did make you fearful, he must understand why it was so harmful because that will help him understand your needs better.  Perhaps your counselor may help him understand that.

In conclusion I repeat, in order to stay in this relationship, your boyfriend must be helping you heal. 

Faith

April 18, 2015 - 12:46pm

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