were do I start? My relationship has not been an easy one really from the start. I new that he came from a very dysfunctional family and that he had so many things done to him to hurt him in his life. So I guess from him being hurt but wanted all these good things in life to feel lived and cared for and I new how that felt coming from a bad past myself. We were both abandoned with kids to figure out on our own . He was not working at the time but taking care of his grandmother while she was sick and caring for his son full time. In the beginning there were lots of flags I could say. I felt like he was always pushing me to do better and to learn to protect myself that's one thing I fell in li ve with. After a while it started to feel like nothing was good enough and it felt like I couldn't parent right he couldn't stand anything my daughter would do. there was many times he tried to leave and take a break is what he would say. Then after a couple years and his grandmother past. He picked a really big fight with me and through my stuff in the drive way. He called my daughter names to me at times. So he moved to were he could get a good job. Then 4 month later after we had been apart. He calls me out of the blue and tells me he's been working and going to therapy and on some medicine. How sorry he was and how I was the love of his life and talked with my daughter about being there for her more. I was just about to move in to my own place I had just got a great job but I chose him and moved to be with him. About two months I started to really hate how I was feeling and I didn't understand why I wasn't happy. We then took custody of his daughter from another previous marriage. About another two to three months things really started to get harder. here I have beginning of a teenager who hasn't spent much time with her dad in her life and who's jealous lies manipulative what to do I didn't notice it was even happing and her dad was getting upset with me for not being harder on her. So I tried to be harder on her. And that made things worse. Two and half years later I feel so trapped I can work because every time I did he would complain it was a crapy job and the kids needed me. But if I wasn't working and helping I would hear about that to. I couldn't shop good enough so he would go with me at times . He is good with money but he would keep all the money and say he pays and takes care of things so I shouldn't need money if I want money go get a job. But I all ready new how that went. The kids would think that I didn't care and that I was always telling them no when they would want something. They didn't understand that I didn't have money. When I would get them a treat and try to do a picnic or something I
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Oh I forgot to mention after telling me that he deeply loved me and wanted me to come home to my house he then had things like its going to take time because of his kids and I said I wanted her stuff gone And I felt like he wasn't really what he wanted. Again why would he tell me that kids don't want me there and how he has to think ofbthem and there moms. He told me he was going to make his kids go to my church on a fri he had to go out of town sat then sun he would go to church didnt hear anything from him tell I texted him on sun he said still outbof town that's it. Then his excuse was he was sick. I have not heard from him now over a week ago. That doesn't seem like deeply love to me.
May 25, 2015 - 8:29amThis Comment