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Hello and thank you for sharing your question.
After reading your story I think its fair to say that you do NOT have a libido issue. You do enjoy feeling horny/sexual, but you do not know how to feel that with him at this point
It seems that you are in a sexual rut with your partner, not because you don't like/want sex, but because he does get you in the mood. This is a mental block which then translates in a sexual block
In order to pass that block you must connect emotionally and mentally with your partner before having sex. There needs to be more than just physical motivation.
Do not expect that after typical day at work, you can hop into bed and feel like having sex. There needs to be more.
In which case, you need to create the sex life you want and not let him be in the driver's seat the whole time.
This might mean, playing a competitive board game with him while sharing a bottle of wine. Take a night stroll and star gaze.
Do some activity that will help you feel mentally, emotionally connected with him. When this happens, the need to connect physically will follow.
Good luck and let us know if you have any more questions.
Faith