Hello and welcome to EmpowHer,
I am so sorry to hear about your family situation. As you said, it is ultimately your mother's decision.
But you can certainly help her find an alternative!
In order to effect change, you need specific goals. Of course, you know in general terms that you want your mother to separate from your stepfather. But this is too broad.
You first need to outline the steps that need to be taken for that to happen. What would it look like for your mom? Does it mean moving out of the house? Does it mean, kicking him out of the house? Would she need to move to another town? Does she have financial ties to him that need to be broke before separation can happen?
Right now, telling your mom she should leave him, is true, but will only happen if you have a clear plan.
So, I suggest that you create one. Then present it to your mom. This may help her visualize a new, better life as possible instead of hypothetical.
I wish you all the best.
Faith
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Hello and welcome to EmpowHer,
November 15, 2015 - 12:51pmI am so sorry to hear about your family situation. As you said, it is ultimately your mother's decision.
But you can certainly help her find an alternative!
In order to effect change, you need specific goals. Of course, you know in general terms that you want your mother to separate from your stepfather. But this is too broad.
You first need to outline the steps that need to be taken for that to happen. What would it look like for your mom? Does it mean moving out of the house? Does it mean, kicking him out of the house? Would she need to move to another town? Does she have financial ties to him that need to be broke before separation can happen?
Right now, telling your mom she should leave him, is true, but will only happen if you have a clear plan.
So, I suggest that you create one. Then present it to your mom. This may help her visualize a new, better life as possible instead of hypothetical.
I wish you all the best.
Faith
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