Okay, first of all let me point out that you have been a "girlfriend" of a guy for five years who then cheated on you and is continuing to do so. He is the one cheating, but if the girlfriend was aware of it, so is she. However, from you stating that she told you to stop texting, she was completely unaware of this fact.
Personally i understand the hesitance to make things official as my husband and i have dated for three years before we tied the knot as you would say, but that wasn't from his lack of trying or proposals. If this man really loved you:
1. he would have at least asked you to marry him by now
2. He would never have even looked at another girl in a potential girlfriend
3. He would fight for you, not the other way around.
So, here is my advice to you (and it worked for me) move on. be totally and mentally prepared that it won't happen again. you will never be more than maybe friends. let it sink in, date, get your own place, ect. if he fights for you, it will be on your terms whether you want that or not. Be prepared to date someone who does think the world of you and would fight for you. and if you find this guy out there for you, don't risk him for an old toy.
now when i say it worked for me, my husband and i when we were dating hit a real ruff patch and were separated for about a month. We moved out (my baby and i) and i was six months pregnant. I found a job, an apartment, my own support system and moved on. I didn't date as the pregnancy would be a huge complication and it wouldn't be good for my kids. I knew he would be in their lives, so i gave him a private number to call and see his son. then one day he called, i met him at a local restaurant and got down on his knees and begged me for a second chance and swore to me that he would change. I took him back and never regretted that choice.
Your man though, has not fought for you but is enjoying this game of you and his other gf fighting over him. don't give him the satisfaction.
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Okay, first of all let me point out that you have been a "girlfriend" of a guy for five years who then cheated on you and is continuing to do so. He is the one cheating, but if the girlfriend was aware of it, so is she. However, from you stating that she told you to stop texting, she was completely unaware of this fact.
Personally i understand the hesitance to make things official as my husband and i have dated for three years before we tied the knot as you would say, but that wasn't from his lack of trying or proposals. If this man really loved you:
1. he would have at least asked you to marry him by now
2. He would never have even looked at another girl in a potential girlfriend
3. He would fight for you, not the other way around.
So, here is my advice to you (and it worked for me) move on. be totally and mentally prepared that it won't happen again. you will never be more than maybe friends. let it sink in, date, get your own place, ect. if he fights for you, it will be on your terms whether you want that or not. Be prepared to date someone who does think the world of you and would fight for you. and if you find this guy out there for you, don't risk him for an old toy.
now when i say it worked for me, my husband and i when we were dating hit a real ruff patch and were separated for about a month. We moved out (my baby and i) and i was six months pregnant. I found a job, an apartment, my own support system and moved on. I didn't date as the pregnancy would be a huge complication and it wouldn't be good for my kids. I knew he would be in their lives, so i gave him a private number to call and see his son. then one day he called, i met him at a local restaurant and got down on his knees and begged me for a second chance and swore to me that he would change. I took him back and never regretted that choice.
Your man though, has not fought for you but is enjoying this game of you and his other gf fighting over him. don't give him the satisfaction.
best wishes,
December 21, 2015 - 11:56pmKitty
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