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This is a good question to ask yourself, especially because this has a barring on how you will feel during other sexual encounters throughout your life. The last thing you want is to associate sex with violation and low self image. This can lead to countless problems in your future relationships.
First of all, you are right. It was not rape technically; because you eventually made a choice to have sex with him.
But the fact that it was not rape does not mean it won't effect how you feel about yourself. It will! You need to overcome that guilt, and the feeling of being dirty. This will take time, so be patient with yourself.
First of all, tell yourself that what happened was indeed wrong, from all angles. But wanting to have sex was NOT the wrong part. The wrong part was how it happened and the person it happened with. So learn to separate the desire from the deed.
Everyone wants to have sex at some point. But it's up to you to choose the ideal situation that will give you empowerment, not violation!
Be strong. Don't look down on yourself for wanting sex. We all do. Simply determine that next time, it will be on your terms!
Faith
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Hello and thank you for choosing EmpowHer,
December 27, 2015 - 2:07pmThis is a good question to ask yourself, especially because this has a barring on how you will feel during other sexual encounters throughout your life. The last thing you want is to associate sex with violation and low self image. This can lead to countless problems in your future relationships.
First of all, you are right. It was not rape technically; because you eventually made a choice to have sex with him.
But the fact that it was not rape does not mean it won't effect how you feel about yourself. It will! You need to overcome that guilt, and the feeling of being dirty. This will take time, so be patient with yourself.
First of all, tell yourself that what happened was indeed wrong, from all angles. But wanting to have sex was NOT the wrong part. The wrong part was how it happened and the person it happened with. So learn to separate the desire from the deed.
Everyone wants to have sex at some point. But it's up to you to choose the ideal situation that will give you empowerment, not violation!
Be strong. Don't look down on yourself for wanting sex. We all do. Simply determine that next time, it will be on your terms!
Faith
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