After hearing your story, I get a sense that you know the answer already in your heart. Hopefully I can validate what you're already feeling.
First, I encourage you to ask yourself a few questions:
What qualities do you value in a guy?
--A guy who has good friends, but no drive to make something of himself?
--A guy who is humble and hard working? Or a guy who is too manly to walk a dog?
--A guy who hangs out with you? Or a guy who wants to build a life with you?
Be honest with yourself about the kind of qualities you want in a boyfriend, and it will be clear whether or not you should be with him. That comes way before the sexual intimacy issue.
If you decide his qualities are for you, then its times to address his low libido. You did mention that he was a player before. This makes me think that the chase without commitment is a turn on for him. You may want to consider his past long term relationships. Has this happened before?
The best thing to do is ask him. If the foundation of your relationship is friendship, then he may feel comfortable opening up to you about what is really going on.
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Hello and welcome to EmpowHer,
After hearing your story, I get a sense that you know the answer already in your heart. Hopefully I can validate what you're already feeling.
First, I encourage you to ask yourself a few questions:
What qualities do you value in a guy?
--A guy who has good friends, but no drive to make something of himself?
--A guy who is humble and hard working? Or a guy who is too manly to walk a dog?
--A guy who hangs out with you? Or a guy who wants to build a life with you?
Be honest with yourself about the kind of qualities you want in a boyfriend, and it will be clear whether or not you should be with him. That comes way before the sexual intimacy issue.
If you decide his qualities are for you, then its times to address his low libido. You did mention that he was a player before. This makes me think that the chase without commitment is a turn on for him. You may want to consider his past long term relationships. Has this happened before?
The best thing to do is ask him. If the foundation of your relationship is friendship, then he may feel comfortable opening up to you about what is really going on.
I wish you the best of luck!
April 16, 2016 - 10:14amFaith
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