Thank you for sharing your question with the EmpowHER community.
Being away from home for extended periods of time can be stressful. Not to mention you have legitimate reasons for not feeling safe.
I understand there are a couple of things that are affecting your ability to be happy.
Missing your boyfriend
Feeling unsafe
Health affected
With regards to missing your boyfriend, this time in your relationship can really strengthen the bond you have. Long distance relationships are lessons in effective communication, because you have to try hard to comunicate affection and intimacy. This time of distance in your relationship you want to show your boyfriend you can can be independent in the relationship and not lose yourself in the relationship. After all, you being you is what made him fall for you in the first place. You don't want him to feel he has to carry you in the relationship because you're falling apart. Let him know even though you miss him you are managing well.
As for the safety issue, I'm glad to know you are traveling with others. What else could you do to increase your safety?
As for your health, once you put small goals into place to relieve your stress and anxiety, like going to the gym and showing your boyfriend you miss him in a independent kind of way, your appetite just might come back to normal. The key thing is to start small and take it one day at a time.
One of the greatest practices I began years ago was writing down what I was grateful for. A gratitude journal can be really healing and help you focus on what is right rather than what isn't.
Always remember, you are more powerful and capable than you are giving yourself credit for. Allow yourself to believe in your ability to turn things around. Give yourself the permission to be happy no matter what.
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HI RK,
Thank you for sharing your question with the EmpowHER community.
Being away from home for extended periods of time can be stressful. Not to mention you have legitimate reasons for not feeling safe.
I understand there are a couple of things that are affecting your ability to be happy.
With regards to missing your boyfriend, this time in your relationship can really strengthen the bond you have. Long distance relationships are lessons in effective communication, because you have to try hard to comunicate affection and intimacy. This time of distance in your relationship you want to show your boyfriend you can can be independent in the relationship and not lose yourself in the relationship. After all, you being you is what made him fall for you in the first place. You don't want him to feel he has to carry you in the relationship because you're falling apart. Let him know even though you miss him you are managing well.
As for the safety issue, I'm glad to know you are traveling with others. What else could you do to increase your safety?
As for your health, once you put small goals into place to relieve your stress and anxiety, like going to the gym and showing your boyfriend you miss him in a independent kind of way, your appetite just might come back to normal. The key thing is to start small and take it one day at a time.
One of the greatest practices I began years ago was writing down what I was grateful for. A gratitude journal can be really healing and help you focus on what is right rather than what isn't.
Always remember, you are more powerful and capable than you are giving yourself credit for. Allow yourself to believe in your ability to turn things around. Give yourself the permission to be happy no matter what.
I hope this helps.
Be well,
~Gillette
May 9, 2016 - 8:23pmThis Comment
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