I'm very sorry this happened to you. I don't know what your religion is, but rape and/or molestation is no fault of yours and should not be treated as something deliberate on your part. In other words, you did not (willing) go against your religion. Your parents, in my opinion, any man that would claim to love you, should be able to understand and accept this.
As for the question of virginity, a person who has never had sexual intercourse is considered a virgin. Sexual intercourse means a man's penis entered your vagina. Only you can know if this occurred. Also, many people believe an intact hymen (the membrane that partially closes the opening of the vagina) is an indicator of virginity, but this is a myth. Because it is so thin, the hymen could break before you've even had intercourse. Some girls aren't even born with a hymen. So whether you are a virgin or not, an intact hymen does not *prove* virginity.
I think at some point you may to need to trust someone (a gynecologist or counselor) and unburden yourself of this secret or it will always be a weight on you. They should keep what you say in confidence. You can ask this before you disclose any information, and you need not name the person who hurt you (if you don't want to) only tell what happened and what your concerns are. It's really up to you. I wish you all the best in whatever you decide.
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Dear somebody,
Thank you for reaching out to us.
I'm very sorry this happened to you. I don't know what your religion is, but rape and/or molestation is no fault of yours and should not be treated as something deliberate on your part. In other words, you did not (willing) go against your religion. Your parents, in my opinion, any man that would claim to love you, should be able to understand and accept this.
As for the question of virginity, a person who has never had sexual intercourse is considered a virgin. Sexual intercourse means a man's penis entered your vagina. Only you can know if this occurred. Also, many people believe an intact hymen (the membrane that partially closes the opening of the vagina) is an indicator of virginity, but this is a myth. Because it is so thin, the hymen could break before you've even had intercourse. Some girls aren't even born with a hymen. So whether you are a virgin or not, an intact hymen does not *prove* virginity.
I think at some point you may to need to trust someone (a gynecologist or counselor) and unburden yourself of this secret or it will always be a weight on you. They should keep what you say in confidence. You can ask this before you disclose any information, and you need not name the person who hurt you (if you don't want to) only tell what happened and what your concerns are. It's really up to you. I wish you all the best in whatever you decide.
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Helena
April 15, 2017 - 6:15amThis Comment
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