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16 and want to have a baby no bf or gf

By December 18, 2010 - 2:02pm
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is it ok for me to have a child at 16 and can i get pregeo without a man or woman

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It is certainly possible to get pregnant on your own. I did just that. You need to use a sperm bank. However, I was much older than you when I became pregnant on my own. (I did use California Cryobank and a medical center.) I was 31 when I became pregnant on my own and the baby that was born is leaving for college in one month. Even though I was much older than you when I became pregnant, I have to say that it has never been easy. I have a college degree and a job, and it still has not been easy. I'm not saying that you should wait until you are 31, but you should seriously think of waiting at least awhile. You need to have some sort of income or financial support or your life, and the baby's life, will become a living hell. You may even end up homeless. Children are incredibly expensive. That is why families have fewer children these days than they did back in the 1800s. If you do not have a means to support yourself, you certainly don't have a means to support a child. When I had my son 18 years ago, I was making $60,000 a year. Now I make close to $200,000 a year, and still it has never been easy to be a single Mom. Unless you have an unusually amazing family, you really can't expect anyone else to jump in and help you out. I have to say that there were only rare occassions that anyone (friends or family) ever wanted to do anything extra to help me because I was a single Mom. Nobody gives you a break because you are single Mom. No one will feel sorry for you. You still have to pay all your bills. Your taxes aren't any lower. Your child still has to be transported to all of the necessary places and this typically requires the use of a car at some point. Do you own a car? I have no regrets whatsoever in having my son. But I was much older than you and had a college degree and a job. You need an income or your plan won't work. I suggest finishing school and getting a job first.

July 24, 2011 - 7:29am

To be honest, you are too young. Finish school,get a job if don't have one, move out of your parents house if you still live with them. Pay your own bills, buy your own things and just live life for you for a while. Enjoy your youth and all the things you can do. I was 18 when I got pregnant with my first child and was a single mother when I had her at 19 years old. Went back to high school... VERY HARD TO DO WITH A BABY. Met my current bf that I have been with for 6 years now when my daughter was 7 months old. We moved so fast.. not 2 months dating we bought a house and within 2 months after I was pregnant with my second child. Giving birth to baby number 2 at 20 years old and had just graduated high school not 2 months before giving birth, it was so very difficult. Then I had to think about how I was going to afford my new little family. we could not make ends meet with one income. So I had to get a job. Still not enough money .. I love my kids very very much. I went to college when my son was less then a year old. graduated and finally with only 2 kids and myself and my boyfriend we can make ends meet. But we both have over 10 dollar and hour paying jobs. Even with just you and one baby you need atleast that to make it work because then you have to pay for everything yourself. Think about this long and hard before you jump. Children are a blessing but at the right time. I don't regret my children but I think even I was too young. I missed out on a lot of hanging out with the girl nights and just being about to do what i want. Sleep in, go out, go on road trips whenever I wanted and other things. Atleast give yourself some time to experience some of this before you just go and have a baby. Now I am starting to do some of those things but I still always have my kids with me and I have to consider their school when I want to travel across country to visit family and everything. Just be mindful of your choice and keep in mind what you are giving up because once that baby is here, it's not about you anymore.. it's first and foremost about that baby. Please don't jump.. your young and have lots of time to be a mommy. Be yourself, then be someones girlfriend, then if you want be someone's wife, you can always just go back to being yourself. But once you become a mommy your a mommy until the day you die. Keep that in mind.

June 5, 2011 - 10:24pm

If you are 16 years old, I am sure you know how a woman becomes pregnant. And yes, it involves a man's sperm and a woman's egg. If you do not understand this, please educate yourself on the conception process.

December 19, 2010 - 9:04am

I really think the best decision for you is to wait and really think about your life before wanting to have a child. It really isn't all that easy and fun, just because you want a baby doesn't mean you are ready or really know the consequences, the activities you'll have to give up and how time consuming it is.

December 18, 2010 - 6:17pm
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