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21 year female with no sex drive, how do i get this back? whats wrong with me?

By Anonymous March 22, 2009 - 9:50am
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for the last 5 months i have had trouble getting turned on by anything. my husband thinks its him but its just that i dont have a sex drive any more. i am so attracted to my husband and i miss being with him sexually. whats wrong with me? how do i fix this?

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Hi Anon,
You'll be happy to know that there are safe nonprescription and prescription solutions (below), some of which have been proven in published studies to increase a woman’s sex drive. Just be aware that figuring out how to increase the female sex drive is complicated because the desire to make love is influenced by so many factors including physical, emotional, relationship satisfaction, and the setting you are in. Possible causes of low sex drive in women include stress or anxiety, medications (anti-depressants, birth control pills) complexity of health issues (Diabetes, MS, cancer) and fatigue.
Of course, you should talk with your doctor. But here is a list of possible steps you can take:
• Have your doctor check your thyroid function.
• Check out the side effects of any medications that you may be taking.
• Zestra (nonprescription topical oil)
Two placebo-controlled studies published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy showed that this blend of botanicals (including borage seed and evening primrose oils, Angelica root and vitamins C and E) provided a significant increase in arousal, desire, genital stimulation, ability to orgasm and pleasure. The treatment also worked equally well on women using SSRI antidepressant medicines.
• Hormone Therapies (prescription only)
Localized estrogen therapy - Placing estrogen directly into the vagina soothes vaginal tissue, and allows the secretions necessary for comfortable sex. They are available as suppository tablets, creams, or "rings," which sit inside the vagina and give off small doses of the hormone over time.
Compounded testosterone cream - Some pharmacies that make medicine from scratch offer testosterone creams and gels, but you'll need a doctor’s prescription.
• Vitamin E (nonprescription)
When used locally in the vagina it can help rehydrate tissue and may possibly increase sensation.

April 23, 2010 - 1:42am
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Hi Anon

Thanks for your question and I'm glad you found Empowher!

There could be any number of reasons for your sex drive being low - from your diet, to your hormones, to fatigue or emotional reasons, to a potential illness.

If your sex drive decreased in the past 5 months, can you tell us a little about what was going on then - and what's being going on since then? Have you had problems with your diet, or with sleeping? Is it just your sex life that is being affected or have your noticed other aspects of your life suffering? Are you on birth control or taking other medications?

If you can fill us in a little on your life, we can help you more!

March 22, 2009 - 10:33am
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