Is 45 too old to have a baby??

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I too conceived and gave birth naturally at 42. 4 months before this last baby was conceived, I had a miscarriage, probably due to too much wine during Christmas, not knowing that I was pregnant. Found out Jan 6 I was 5 weeks, then 2 weeks later, lost the baby. Then May 16, found out I was pregnant again at 4 weeks. Gave birth 5 weeks early to a very healthy beautiful baby girl (all my children were delivered early).
I am wondering if there is any way we could "survey" the women who were able to conceive naturally in their 40s to find out how many women used hormonal birth control in their earlier years? I noticed that most women I knew were "on the pill" in their early 20s, then in late 30s when they decided it was "time" to have a baby, they couldn't. I read an article 10 years ago discussing a theory that the pill and other hormonal birth control not only could raise breast cancer risks but also it reduces the ability of women to conceive later in life because the pill would "trick" the body to think it was pregnant. Naturally our bodies will eventually think we've been pregnant so many times when we're on the pill, so maybe that is why so many women who are just in their 30s but used the pill for many years had issues getting pregnant? I had classmates who used the pill for one reason or another ranging from regulating periods to acne, to just plain preventing pregnancies, and when they decided to have a baby after using the pill for 10-15 years continuously, they couldn't conceive. Please advise if you were a regular birth control pill user in your earlier years before you tried to conceive in late 30s or 40s. Thank you!

Anonymous, I don't know how old you are but "reality check" for you is that the current boom in babies is predominantly due to women in their 40's having them. As long as we have a regular menstrual/ovulation cycle we can conceive. I am 45 and 38w/4d pregnant. I'm healthy, my baby boy is healthy and he was conceived naturally (no meds/no assistance) in one try. I as well as the original poster married late in life and then chose to have children last December. The notion that a majority of people like yourself think that it is somehow "odd" that women in their 40's can have a baby naturally and with no issues (such as myself) is insane and quite frankly ignorant to the current statistical facts.

I hope you read through this thread to hear the stories and comments of many women in their 40s who have indeed conceived naturally with no issues so that your future comments on threads such as these offer encouragement rather than negativity.

Im Reading through The thread Of coments and I amcompletedly amazed to hear stories of women being 45 and being pregnant . Then I I think , is this true? Are these stories real. I am going tone completely honest hopefully someone reads my comment and tell me their truth as well. I had an abortion after the man I was with sweet talked to me , brainwashed me and I don't know how I was hypnotized and ended up doing the abortion. When I realized what I had done I became sick, meaning I would not be in peace with myself, and regret it every day. I went into a deep depression, I was u employed at that time and was so depressed that I did not take showers, slept all day and cried like if someone had died. That was in 2010. Since then I have been so into getting pregnant that I went to this site bought cleansing products learned how to do pelvic massage fertility massages and all that. At the. Shinning of the month of December I started a 30 day cleansing plan drinking herbal teas every day taking pills to clean the uterus when almost in the middle of this 30 day plan, I had a strong pain in my uterus which became inflamed, all this while I was at the office working. Since I had started bleeding I thought I had gotten my period at the second day of this light bleeding, my uterus got swollen and got a strong pain. I went to the bathroom at the office and realized my uterus looked inflamed, I massaged it thinking it would alleviate the swollen part. I went back to my office and sat down when after a couple of minutes after having rubbed my uterus I felt like going to do number 2. Got to the bathroom and a lump came out into the toilet. The clot was about 2 1/2 by 2 inches approximately. I got cares and wondered what it was, I grabbed a piece of paper and picket up quickly before the lump reached to the bottom of the toilet floor. I held it in my hand and picked on it to see what it was I saw blood dark but a white stripe of something which I did Noting what it was. When I talked to a friend about it she said it may have been the herbs may have make me have an abortion. That was last December I was 46. Now I m trying to conceive and even took the clomide treatment my doctor had prescribed since last year but this month again... I only have my period. And while Iam grateful to still have my period I regret every day to have done what I did. The miscarriage with the herbs was unintentional and it happened thinking it was good for me to prepare for conceptions the website says it. However I realized some herbs are very potent and one must be very sure whether or not pregnant before taking them. My mistake was kit checking before taking them disbelieving the power of my body thinking it could not be possible to become pregnant again. Now my days are torn between my thoughts that tell me maybe it's too late and my regrets that beg for another chance. Can someone reply?

If you want a child you should have a child. If you don't, you will regret it for the rest of your life. I can guarantee that the love you feel for your husband would pale into insignificance compared to the love you would feel for your child. There is nothing else like it.
Don't let your husbands selfishness destroy your chance for true happiness.
When my little boy hugs me tightly around my neck I cannot describe how wonderful it is. This feeling of absolute, unwavering, unconditional love. Partners come and go, but love for a child is absolutely eternal.
No man should ever prevent a woman from becoming a mother if this is what she wants to do.

My heart goes out to you for your grief, you only have one life if you want a baby have one although that is easier said than done think about it. My husband left me after 18 years two children then I met someone with no children I had a little boy in my 40's best thing ever. Men are a very selfish breed lots of love and best wishes s xx

It's wonderful to read this. I'm 45 and just found out I'm pregnant, also naturally. Good luck with all of it!