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I'm recently married and my new husband and I have started talking about having a baby together. Not right away, but maybe we'd start trying in the next year or two. I have a couple of teenagers from my previous marriage and this is his first marriage (no kids). The problem is timing - we're not getting any younger!! We're both in our 40's - I'll be turning 45 later this year, and when I had my last baby at age 31, I thought I was totally done having kids. I never would have dreamed I'd even be thinking about another baby, but of course I never ever dreamed I'd get divorced and then remarried.
My question to other moms out there is what your opinion is on having a baby later in life. I'd love to know ALL your feelings on this. At the moment, I'm so enjoying my teenagers and love the fact that they're each becoming so independent and that we can do so many fun things together. I love my independence as well, and how much easier this part of my life is. As much as I'd love to have a baby with my husband at some point, I'm wondering if adding a new baby into the mix would be completely insane at this "middle-aged" stage of the game. What do you think? I could sure use some advice!
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I'm considering whether I'm able to have my first child at 44 with a partner I'm going to marry. I'm really thinking of going for it as I'd love nothing more than a child, especially now in a wonderful loving relationship. I remember a schoolfriend whose parents had her late in life..they adored her. Her folks adored each other too, it seemed a close family unit. To have children in mid 20's is a perfect scenario yes. Unfortunately we can't all do that nor turn back the clock. Go for it x
January 3, 2016 - 1:59pmThis Comment
Age dosent really matter my husband died when our little boy was 16 months . I now have a new partner who is 8years younger than me I'm 45 . He has no kids but would love a baby . I am one of those people that if it happens naturally it will happen I don't think your age matters good
October 10, 2016 - 2:45amluck
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It is great to read that so many women around their 40s are getting pregnant and becoming healthy babies. I am courious about their hormon levels (AMH, FSH etc.) Maybe any happy woman will share this with me... As I am trying for almost two years, without success. And I am 44 now. I hardly belive that I will conceive naturally at my age, and decide to go for an IVF, although doctors are telling at my age I only have 3% chance to become a mother.
March 2, 2016 - 1:28pmThis Comment
I'm 45 years old and had my kids at 37, 39 and 40. My kids are now 4,6 and 8. Yes, I'm an older parent but I disagree that this is a negative thing. In my early thirties all I cared about myself... Now, as an older parent I am 100 percent ready to sacrifice all that I need to for my kids. Aside from that, I take care of myself better than I did in my 20's.
December 22, 2015 - 9:47pmYour 40's are a great time to have a baby if you can pull it off. Much better than in your 20's when it's all about you.
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Hi, I had my children later in life because I wanted to. I had my last baby at 42. It was a little harder on my body but he is my life. I had to endure a "late life" pregnancy at the doctors office and I am having to endure, "are you his grandma". My feelings get hurt on a daily basis; however, I have never known the kisses and hugs the way I do know. I want my other children to have babies earlier than I would have but I also want them to be done partYing just like I did. Late life pregnancy is hard, it's hard on the joints and it's extra hard to breath. I'm 45 now and I want a baby girl...my husband doesn't want to deal with how hard it was to deal with me at 42. Do your thing sweetheart! Medical technology is so advanced now that you got this! Just don't let the terms medical professionals use get you down.
February 3, 2016 - 12:08pmThis Comment
I totally agree!!!!
January 8, 2016 - 9:33amThis Comment
Is it fair to a kid to have young judgmental parents? To each their own, live and let live peacefully. I know plenty of uninvolved parents of all ages,, age is not the determining factor in that. Teens complain of parents, period. The fact that you claim to know many teens with older parents demonstrates how common it has become to have kids later in life. I fail to see why people who have nothing relevant to add to a conversation or topic seek out sites such as this one simply to spew hateful comments.
December 22, 2015 - 1:43pmThis Comment
I'll be 44 in March and I have a 10 year old form a previous marriage. My husband is 6 years younger and doesn't not have kids. We went see an IVF specialist and was told my egg count was very low and changes of having a goo quality egg was low too. So we gave up on the idea because we did not want to use donor eggs and came to term with not having a child.
November 25, 2015 - 10:12amThree weeks ago I had nausea and my stomach was just feeling weird. Then I realize I had not gotten my period and decided to take a test. I was shocked that it was positive. I went to the doctor and he confirmed that I was 8 weeks pregnant. I'm now 10 weeks and I'm a high risk pregnancy because of my age, weight and because my first birth I had really bad preeclampsia and had to deliver at 31 weeks. The more I read the scare I am, but I know so many off you have delivered healthy children. Reading your stories gives me home and faith.
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How is your pregnancy going? I read your story and just wish I could hear how people are doing past the time they initially post a comment.
December 20, 2015 - 11:47pmThis Comment
Hello I gave birth to triplets at 48 they are perfectly healthy 2 year olds now!!! Anybody can have an autistic child or one that has disabilities I don't believe age makes a difference go with your heart, Whatever's meant to be will be . Don't let age play a factor in you being a mom
November 7, 2015 - 4:42amThis Comment