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Am a 35 year old woman who has a 2 year old daughter. Ever since her birth I have lost all interest in sex. In order to please my husband I did try to give in- only to experience good deal of pain owing to acute vaginal dryness- which was never the case

By Anonymous February 24, 2011 - 9:25pm
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before. I do feel attracted to my husband and so does he, but the very thought of sex cringes me and I refrain from indulging myself. I did try using lubrication jelly too but it didnt help. The problem is I dont get aroused even after prolonged foreplay. Besides, my husband ( 38 years) also has started to lose interest in sex- guess because of my attitude. All this frustrates and depresses me as I feel we are missing out on sexual opportunities when we are completely entitled to our share of happiness. What could be the problem and how can I get back and share the same level of intimacy as before.

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Hi Anonymous,
Thank you for your question and for finding EmpowHER. We're glad you're here. Dyspareunia (painful intercourse) is a medical condition, and you may want to set up an appointment with your gynecologist to get this taken care of. They will rule out a physical reason (besides for the excessive dryness) that's getting in the way of your intimacy. They also can refer you to an emotional health specialist as needed to try and see if they can help you that way also. I know how hard it can be to get back in the swing of being with with your husband after giving birth. And it's compounded by pain when you attempt--no fun! You can get back to the fun part. Here is some information that may provide some insight:
Dyspareunia (Painful Intercourse) Information, and Dyspareunia Advocacy Sheet
Good luck, and let us know how you're doing.

February 25, 2011 - 7:38am
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