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Am i still a virgin???

By November 5, 2009 - 12:33pm
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I have been married for 3months now....i have not experienced breaking of virginity coz i never experienced bleeding. Is this possible?

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Many women are under the impression that once you lose your virginity, this causes bleeding. That is not the case with all women.

As previously mentioned, the hymen may break while doing activities of daily living such as exercise, bike riding, etc. By no means does the breaking of your hymen while riding a bike take away your virginity, it simply means that the thin sheath you once had is gone. However, if you have had sexual intercourse with your husband, regardless of bleeding or not, you are not a virgin.

Many men also believe this bleeding myth to be true, but a little research on their part can and will clear up any misconceptions. No shame in not bleeding, be glad you didn't dirty up the sheets ;-) Hope the information by all the ladies here has helped!

November 9, 2009 - 6:18am
(reply to Rosa Cabrera RN)

yes all of you have been very helpful and thanks to all of you....

November 9, 2009 - 8:13am
EmpowHER Guest

It is very common to have your hymen break prior to actual intercourse. As stated above, you may break it easily by everyday activities as it is very thin. Does this cause an issue in your relationship due to the fact that you did not bleed?

November 8, 2009 - 9:55am
EmpowHER Guest

yes its normal. The hymen can break without sex such as exercise, which is probably what yours did.

November 7, 2009 - 4:27pm


Have you had sexual intercourse...meaning your husband's penis has entered into your vagina?

Are you referring to "breaking your virginity" as breaking your hymen? (The skin that partially covers the vagina)?

November 5, 2009 - 12:56pm
(reply to Alison Beaver)

yes....i have had sexual intecourse with my husband several times. In the beginning it used to hurt but now i enjoy it...i am surprised why i never fekt the breaking of the hymen. Is this possible?

November 6, 2009 - 8:36am
(reply to sweetmaiden)

I am wondering what your definition of "virgin" is?

In most cultures, a virgin is a description of a women who has not had sexual intercourse; penis-to-vagina specifically.

If you have had sexual intercourse with your husband, then you would not be considered a virgin.

Are you asking because you thought you have to experience pain in order not to be a virgin? Is this your culture's definition of "virgin" (a woman can have sex, but if she doesn't experience pain with intercourse...then she is still a virgin?).

Some women have hymens in-tact into their adulthood, other women have small hymens, no hymen or a hymen that was normally expanded through normal activity in their childhood (playing, exercising, etc). Some women experience pain with their hymen "breaking", and others do not...this is all normal!

November 8, 2009 - 8:50am
(reply to Alison Beaver)

thankyou so much for the answer..u have cleared my misconceptions.

November 9, 2009 - 8:12am

That is normal. I lost mines at 15 and never bled. It did hurt ALOT!

November 5, 2009 - 12:51pm
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