Another "Pregnant? or just Stress-induced missed period?" question
The start of my most recent period was on Feb 26 - projected ovulation date being March 14, projected next period March 28 (via MyMonthlyCycles, where I have been keeping track of my period for 1 year). Average cycle - 30 days.
We had protected intercourse on March 3 and 24. The condom didn't break; slipped down maybe an inch but we pushed it right back up.
Now my period is 3 or 4 days late (depending if you count the 28th), with no usual signs of cramping etc that I normally get. Took two HPT's and both came out negative. Discharge looks normal, no tenderness of breasts or anything. I have had a little bit of an upset stomach but I think I may just be getting sick - I am under quite a bit of stress.
I know it's unlikely that I am pregnant, but I am paranoid since I can't afford to have a child right now. I have heard that stress really can throw off a regular period (I have been regular for 8 years now), but I have a hard time believing it since I am so paranoid... help? I don't know what's wrong with me!
Have a GYNO appt coming up in a month, but I'm the type of person who likes to know without going to the doc! It sure would be nice if my period would come!
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Anon, just thought I'd check in and see how things are going for you and your girlfriend. You said you were planning to do the HPT on Sunday; I'm hoping that either she got her period or that the test was negative? Please update us and let us know how you both are doing.
I know the feeling you speak of when everything seems like it's going crazy all at once. But you know what? THOSE are the times when you can be the best boyfriend. It's easy to be a great boyfriend in the easy times, when things are going well and are not stressful. You sound like a really good guy and I am sure she appreciates having a good friend who is also her boyfriend.
Listen to her, as it sounds like you have been doing. Occasionally do something small just for her. Be there when she just needs someone to hug her and say "I'm so sorry" about her grandmother. And don't freak out. You can rise to this challenge, bit by bit, day by day.
Like Alysia said, this is a good opportunity to talk about what you would ever do if she became pregnant, so there's a plan in place. And if she ends up not being pregnant, it's also a good time to talk about your commitment to birth control -- condoms are good, as long as you're always consistent and use them correctly.
Take care, and do let us know how things are going for the two of you. I respect you a lot for coming here and writing to us about this.
Back again, she has still not had her period, she took the test and it came out negative. I believe it was a First Response test kit as well, which have very good reviews online. Im sure its just the stress. She is taking the other test either today or tomorrow to be sure, since it will be close to 8 days missed. If it comes out negative again, which im sure it will, she is going in for a blood test.
Thanks for all the support, really makes everything a lot easier and very helpful.
Ryan
Ryan, she might want to wait even a few more days before going to the doctor -- 8 days is just not that late, truly. We have recently had several women who wrote in wondering if they might be pregnant, some have been up to two weeks late.
It happens when so much is going on -- stress, weather, a change in lifestyle, grief, etc. I am sure the First Response kit is an excellent one, and by this time, if she were pregnant, enough hormones would be showing up in her urine that it should show on the test.
Hang in there, and thanks for the update. You two are lucky to be good partners in this.
Will do, i will keep you all informed on what is going on.
Ryan
Hi,
I moved your question out of this discussion thread, into it's own separate ASK question.
You can read your question, and subsequent answers and discussion here: Am I pregnant: 17 year old, LMP April 28, unprotected sex with ex who now has new gf.
Thanks,
Alison B.
EmpowHer Moderator