ask: Anyone using the Mirena IUD have a low sex drive? Mine is almost non existant! :o(

 
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I endured jaydess IUD from april 2014 till dec 2014. Your story is similar to mine and it just did'nt get any better. Now I'm happy, sexsual with my man and have my old body back.

January 5, 2015 - 5:24pm
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Anonymous

Can some of you females tell me if it is just lack or desire or flat our aversion? It seems to be aversion for my wife. Trying to figure out if we should wait and see when it is removed next month or if we should seek counseling. Thank you all for the insights. It really has been helpful in a tough situation.

December 27, 2014 - 6:47pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Aversion would not be a bad way to describe it. It just feels like I would rather do just about anything else besides have sex and this is NOT normal for me. Reading all these posts gives me some hope that this is something that can be reversed if I have it taken out. I am so surprised by this. Explains a lot.

February 9, 2015 - 7:04pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I'm on Mirena. Been on it since august 2014. My sex drive has flatlined. In fact, it's gone to aversion. I don't want my boyfriend to touch me, I don't want to have sex, and I have a hard time climaxing, although I think this is more tied to just not wanting to have sex than anything physically wrong or different.

So it's not just you. I have a lot of guilt about what has happened. I can't speak for your situation, but all I can say is try to be as supportive as you can. Having your body hijacked by hormones is hell for all involved.

January 14, 2015 - 8:56pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Why don't you do both? My partner is getting hers out on Monday, after a totally responsless time on it, along with lack of desire (which is contagious) and I wouldn't be surprised if a little counseling might be a good idea as everyone is going to be very vulnerable and feeling pressured for awhile, especially if things don't come back quickly (which, fortunately, according to most posts, appears to not be the case!)

December 27, 2014 - 8:31pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

please update on how it is going since removal. We are to get hers out in a few weeks and I am anxiously awaiting. I feel like an insecure and unloved husband so I am holding out hope that her drive comes back. This is a big deal to me. Thank you all for the input!

January 19, 2015 - 10:17am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

sorry typo correction: For me, even though I had removed it 5 years ago, the confusion and avoidance still comes back once in a while. Basically, what had happened to me is physical abrasion and trauma to the uterus, it was a wound, but not a plain wound , it was a wound that was internal, external, emotional, and sexual, it is hard to understand even by myself. I feel attacked and blamed whenever my lover(s) tells me: "but you removed it a long time ago right? you shouldn't feel bad from it once you have taken it out. It is in your head, it must be something else." I know they are trying to make me feel better, but this is not just a mechanical thing, I am not a machine. It had affected me in ways I cannot interpret but only feel frustrated and any little unsupportive-ness makes me feel alone and stuck, and wrong for not being able to be intimate. I was also blamed by my boyfriend at the time for making excuses and lying about being injured. It was really traumatizing even more so after. The best thing to do is to be completely supportive of her. When I apologized to my current boyfriend about how sorry I am for not being intimate and that I can feel myself avoiding sex again, he was completely supportive and told me that it was ok, and to take my time to be comfortable, he told me that sex is only good to him if it is good to me. Those words really helped me overcome my fears and made me feel cared for, and that really turned me on as a lover, and sex has been really great ever since. Be as gentle as possible and follow her rhythm during intercourse. Give her time to heal physically first.

January 22, 2015 - 4:12pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

For me, even though I had removed it 5 years ago, the confusion and avoidance still comes back once in a while. Basical,y, what had happened to me is physical abrasion and trauma to the uterus, it was a would, but not a plain wound , it was a would that was internal, external, emotional, and sexual, it is hard to understand even by myself. I feel attacked and blamed whenever my lover(s) tells me: "but you removed it a long time ago right? you shouldn't feel bad from it once you have taken it out. It is in your head, it must be something else." I know they are trying to make me feel better, but this is not just a mechanical thing, I am not a machine. It had affected me in ways I cannot interpret but only feel frustrated and any little unsupportive-ness makes me feel alone and stuck, and wrong for not being able to be intimate. I was also blamed by my boyfriend at the time for making excuses and lying about being injured. It was really traumatizing even more so after. The best thing to do is to be completely supportive of her. When I apologized to my current boyfriend about how sorry I am for not being intimate and that I can feel myself avoiding sex again, he was completely supportive and told me that it was ok, and to take my time to be comfortable, he told me that sex is only good to him if it is good to me. Those words really helped me overcome my fears and made me feel cared for, and that really turned me on as a lover, and sex has been really great ever since. Be as gentle as possible and follow her rhythm during intercourse. Give her time to heal physically first.

January 22, 2015 - 4:09pm
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Anonymous

I posted on October 17th. We have better insurance now, so I have an appointment to have my Mirena removed on January 8th. I am so excited! I can hardly wait. I will give it some time after the removal, and then come back here to post how I'm feeling, and if quality of life has improved. :)

December 26, 2014 - 6:25pm
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Anonymous

I've had the ParaGard IUD in since my six week post partum (2011) as well. Since having it placed, I've had zero sex drive. My relationship is practically ruined. I lost my insurance not long after my daughter since I stopped working to be a stay at home mom. I am finally getting insurance through my new job 01/01/15. The first appointment I make is to get this thing removed. I am so relieved to see so many people unfortunatly having the same problem. I thought something was seriously wrong with me :/

December 21, 2014 - 8:41pm
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