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Anyone using the Mirena IUD have a low sex drive? Mine is almost non existant! :o(

By April 24, 2009 - 1:10pm
 
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Thank you for your comments and honesty. My wife used to masturbate quite a bit, but I think since the second round of Mirena it's decreased quite a bit. But, she won't take it out.

November 3, 2015 - 5:46am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I have had the Mirina for two years and my sex drive has stopped. Before I had this put in I would want to make love so regularly. I've been with my partner for thirteen years. I will go and further investigate as now I've read these great stories making me aware. Thanks so moch for sharing.

November 1, 2015 - 4:00am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

has your sex drive returned or is it too soon to tell?

October 30, 2015 - 12:29am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Yes it did, and the depression and mood swings I was getting are slowly easing up as well.

October 30, 2015 - 7:06am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Brother the similarities are scary. I have an 8 year old and another son. We have the exact same issues. My wife actually had it removed 8 months ago and the problem still persists. We are in counseling. She had been avoiding it all together, but lately has been trying to make herself be with me. She has terrible anxiety about sex and we can't even kiss.
I think Mirena has some to do with this as it zapped her drive, but she continued to be with me.... thus developing the aversion to sex. I am sure kids contributed to lack of emotional connection.
She also has had a rocky relationship with her mother that has brought things to light within the last year.
I am sorry that you are going through the same thing. I have heard that it might could take up to a year for getting the drive back after removing this thing. Still holding out hope that it has something to do with it and magically her drive will return. I have anxiety about her anxiety. It's a damned spiral.
I just keep praying and striving to change myself to be a better man, husband and love like Jesus... when she cannot love me back in the way that I feel like I need.
This article on sexual aversion kind of helped me to understand how we got at this place and to understand that it is not our whole marriage, just this one part is lacking (not that it makes it any easier):
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5047_qa.html

I am sorry you are going through this. It is the toughest thing I've ever gone through.

October 29, 2015 - 9:19am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this too, but it's definitely nice to have someone to talk to and to hear what they have tried and if it helped or not. I read the link you posted about aversion. Thanks for posting it. I think some of it applies to me. Definitely the part about me complaining about the lack of sex and that having the opposite affect, meaning she got tired of hearing it and it became negative.

My wife also had a very very rough relationship with her mother and she is saying that she developed a coping mechanism where she basically shuts down with any conflict. She does acknowledge that this isn't a good way to handle things, so that's cool. So, now we are going over arguments we had 6 years ago that aren't even relevant now in terms of subject matter, but she has held on to them and says that it's why she is shut down emotionally.

I personally think that it's great that we are working through some of the old stuff, but it is a desire to be close to another person that gets us through a lot of the tough times of marriage. And, the urge to be close to someone is all hormonal. So, if the Mirena is taking some of that away then working through the old stuff may help us become great friends and really understand each other, which we kind of already are and do, but in my opinion, without affection then there really isn't a marriage. It's just two friends raising a kid or kids. And, once the kids leave then it's divorce time.

I definitely wish the best for you. My wife has said that she is not taking the Mirena out. So, I'm focusing on what I can control, which is work and my relationship with my son. I realize it's probably a slow death to the marriage, but I find myself being angry if I keep thinking about our relationship, and sometimes that has hurt the relationship instead of helped it.

I'd love to hear how your marriage is doing down the road and if taking the Mirena out did finally help. Also, if you found that something else has really helped please let me know.

November 3, 2015 - 6:29am
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Anonymous

I commented on here a few months back about my paragaurd iud and I just finally had it removed yesterday after 4 years. My sex drive isnt back conpletely yet but i can honsetly tell a difference already! Greatest decision i ever made was having it removed!

October 20, 2015 - 11:45am
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I have posted before about my mental issues and how the mirena affected them and my complete lack of sex drive. Well, I had the mirena removed and I had my tubes tied. It was an interesting decision to make, but I digress. I must say, it had been the best decision, my sex drive is coming back, I'm actually perusing my husband. I haven't done that in over a year. I actually cried about it. It sounds stupid, but it was something that was starting to hurt our relationship. That and my mental stuff being completely out of control. As for the mental stuff I feel like I'm starting to balance out again. Again, something I haven't felt in a year. Ladies, if you still have it in and you are feeling like you are going crazy and you have no sex drove and is effecting your relationship, then get it removed.

October 19, 2015 - 9:02pm
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Anonymous

I'm going to try and covince my wife to remove hers. Her sex drive has declined and I think she has the mood swings that everyone mentions. Any tips on convincing her? I don't mind using condoms.

October 19, 2015 - 8:55pm
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Anonymous

So my wife now has full out anxiety about sex. There have been other issues, but I am wondering if any other women have this and if it has much to do with Mirena. She had it removed 8 months ago and we have not had much sex at all and currently at a complete standstill. Hopefully the counseling and prayers will work soon. It has been hard on both of us and our marriage.

October 16, 2015 - 5:51am
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