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Anyone using the Mirena IUD have a low sex drive? Mine is almost non existant! :o(

By April 24, 2009 - 1:10pm
 
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I have just had the mirena taken out today. The main reason for that was because of discomfort but most of all for the reasons you are talking about. I lost the affection and sex drive that you seem to be experiencing with your wife, my husband and I sat and talked about it and agreed that the timimg of having the thing put in and me changing fitted perfectly. I am now hoping this will all change, I too love affection but cannot expect my hubby to always dish it out when I can't return it and as the other affection that is nearly nothing so hope that will change too. I hope you and your wife can work through this, talk to her and suggest to have it removed for a trial time at least. Best of luck to you both

November 11, 2015 - 10:13pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Thank you for you comment. It's difficult because the other women on this forum seem to be looking for solutions and ways to help their relationship. I just don't understand why my wife won't take it out even for a trial period. It can always be put back in. Unfortunately, she has closed the book on discussion on the issue. Any attempt to bring it back up and it would be perceived as me bullying her, which would have the opposite affect.

November 19, 2015 - 7:15pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

My wife I love dearly experienced most of the side effect on this thread for 8 years. On the brink of divorce initiated by me after many years of no sex and constant mood swings, I decided to try one more thing. Research birth control side effects. Asked wife the name of the B.C she's on, lucky to get an answer this time. Mirena!
I started researching online. I printed out pages and pages of evidence suggesting Mirena may be the problem. Yet I was ignored for the next 1 year with constant nagging like “Is it all about Sex?" I'm thinking, is getting married for men and remaining loyal about anything greater than sex?. Cos if you think it is not, you'll be mistaken. I didn't say this, but you bet it is. Men get married and remain loyal with the hope of regular sex. It's that simple.

Then after raising the discussion about divorce again, she finally got the hint and went to the doctor and got it removed and got ParaGard instead. We have been happy ever since except that she now blame me for getting her period back!. (Blame that on nature). When using Mirena, no period for years.

The good thing is, no more yelling; mood back to normal and sex is back on the menu.
My conclusion, Mirena can cause temporary insanity in women and it send signals to the hormones that you are done with having babies and so sex should seize.

Why wait several years to listen to yourself?

January 10, 2016 - 7:42am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Man, this sounds like it could have been written by my husband! I am truly sorry you (and he) are going through this. I never had my hormones checked, but hormone levels can swing pretty widely and still be considered "normal" by doctors. Also, one of the selling points of Mirena is that the hormone released is local and at very very low doses. So if Mirena really does bring about these changes that so many of us are experiencing, it's probably not through raising hormone levels enough that a change would be detected in a blood sample. You might ask if she would be willing to try taking it out, just on a trial run, and see if you can get back to something normal. Warning: it might take a while, though. I have had mine out for a couple months and I still don't have much of any sex drive to speak of. My poor husband is trying, too. He read the love languages book, leaves me nice notes, and I appreciate the effort, but I am still pretty put-off by sex. It's mainly his smell. His skin, his breath, etc. all stinks to me, even when he showers and brushes his teeth. That has to be a pheromone thing or a brain thing or something, right? Maybe it's similar for your wife. Mt total crack-pot theory is that there is some physiological factor we don't understand at work here. I remember when my husband and I were dating I loved the way he smelled. Now. Not at all. Something physiological happened! As for your other question, no there is nothing I can do to get turned-on so it's not just him.

October 31, 2015 - 4:25pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Have you guys thought about going and talking to your ob and the no sex drive thing being post mirena? If you think it is something psychological with an after effect of mirena you should probably go talk to your ob or maybe even talk to a sex counselor.

November 9, 2015 - 7:47am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Yeah, my wife did go talk to her ob about it and got her hormone levels tested. In my opinion the low sex drive got dramatically worse the same time as the 2nd Mirena was put in. Apparently the ob thought that it wasn't the problem. I'm not sure exactly how she concluded that or what my wife's description of the problem was since she thinks that it's not the problem also. I feel like it's trying to convince a crazy person they're crazy. She's been on this Mirena for so long that it's all she can remember, so she thinks it's normal. And, of course, it could be normal, but I figure why not try and take it out and see. But, she says no. A sex counselor could be good. I will have to see if she's up for it. Any talk about it seems to be negative.

November 19, 2015 - 7:21pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I really appreciate your comments. I think you are right on about it having some sort of physiological effect. I tried to see if my wife would take it out on a trial basis, but it's a no go. She is too worried about how her body would react (i.e. heavy periods etc). I just don't understand. This is our marriage and it can always be put back in later if it turns out that the Mirena has nothing to do with it. She said that she feels like she is being bullied to take it out.

She also has had ovarian cysts and recently had to have surgery on them. I mentioned that this is another side effect of Mirena, but it didn't even register with her. She just thinks that the Mirena has nothing to do with any of the issues we have. So, basically at this point if I brought it up again then she would just get angry and resent me, which wouldn't help the cause. I feel like this Mirena is like the ring from Lord of the Rings. I'll never take her precious. Haha. Probably a bad joke, but at this point all I can hope for is that the Mirena has nothing to do with it and just push forward, so I have to laugh at something.

Funny thing too is that we also read the love languages book. I do think it helped me understand a lot of things better, but at this point my wife has actually said that she doesn't even know what she likes at this point in terms of affection. It's driving me nuts that she thinks that the Mirena couldn't possibly be affecting her. It's probably going to take a separation and threat of divorce for her to take it out.

November 3, 2015 - 5:41am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I wish you guys the best of luck. I had ovarian cysts as well and my obgyn stated that it was directly due to the mirena. That's one of their more common side effects. I hope you don't have to threaten divorce.

November 3, 2015 - 5:46am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I personally wanted nothing to do with it. I stopped masturbating and watching porn. And the thought of me touching me and someone else touching me was something that I just didn't want. Before mirena my sex drive was healthy. Once.it was in, I had a lot of mental issues from the little bit of hormones the mirena puts into the body. I did not have my levels checked but after speaking to my obgyn, my pcp and my psychiatrist, they all agreed that the mirena should be removed. So I got it removed. And I'm so thankful I did. I hope this little bit of information helps

October 29, 2015 - 9:48am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Thank you for your comments and honesty. My wife used to masturbate quite a bit, but I think since the second round of Mirena it's decreased quite a bit. But, she won't take it out.

November 3, 2015 - 5:46am
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