Hi all. Im 31,my bf is 30. We dont live together,but i stay at his apartment often,we have no kids and have been dating for 3 and a half years.
When we first started to date,we had a pleasurable sex life, but a year into it ,I started getting my heart right with God and decided to not engage in premarital sex anymore.At this time,my boyfriend got very depressed due to not having a job,no money and at that time,still living with his mom.So we both,kind had our own reasons for not really having sex.
So fast forward and we are very close, he Got his geart right with God ,we are very close spiritually,emotionally and just have a special connection.
We both want to get married and both agrree that noone else is right for us,i know it sounds cheesy.
But due to not having sex,we lost that passion, the intimacy,that spark and even tho he just asked me if i would marry him, he now just (very genuinely,not cold heartedly), told me that although he loves me so much,thinks im gorgeous and he thinks we have a great relationship, that hes not attracted to me anymore to where he desires me sexually.
He still has no job,no money and he is depressed.I really belive that this, along with us stopping being intimate,have given him no urge. He disagrees his depression has anything to do with his low libido...hes even stopped doing other things that he loves due to his depression.He says he doesnt feel like a man.
He says the reason that we arent married (Aside from financially)is because he is worried that his deire for me wont return once we are married.
We are BOTH concerned about this and willing to do anythng to save this relationship,its not just me wanting to keep us together.
But he thinks that doing things like going on exciting dates again an being more "touch feely",like nice massages wont help...but he is willing to try.
Now,Im startng to feel like i need to detatch my feeling from him (quite hard to do),just so i dont hurt myself in the long run...what do i do???
Sorry so long...
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