Boyfriend masturbates even though haveing a willing girlfriend

Personally, I think "Feminism" is a bad word because of people like you. I'm sorry, but here's how it should work: You have your opinions. You can talk about them. But you don't use biased, foolish language such as "we have some chance of saving the future generations of men". You do your research, you say what you think, and you don't rub it in people's faces like that, okay?
And, since /somebody/ will now tell me I'm doing that to you, I'm not. I never said you had to stop posting. Just pointing out to you that you're giving feminists a bad name by calling /other women/ (you know, those people you're trying to make equal?) part of a "sad and messed up world" because we understand men. Try it!
In the case of my relationship with my loving boyfriend (who, by the way, I've been with for a long time, and I can speak pretty solidly on the subject now) I have no issue with porn. In fact, he watches porn nearly every night. And you know what's the kicker? Sometimes, I do to.
The world is a wonderful place. There's nothing wrong with him, he hasn't been rendered impotent, and by God, he's pretty damn happy with me. He's /happy/ with me because I accept it. I understand that porn can be exciting, porn can be arousing, and some (or, probably, most) men have a sex drive that goes far beyond what he wants from sex.
With my boy, he watches porn, he does what he needs to do without me. That's fine. And then, when I want it, he gives. When he wants me, he'll try to take me. We have a wonderfully healthy, and incredibly sexual, relationship.
For some men, restricting them from porn can make them lose their sexual interest in you. Men (and, quite frankly, myself and many other women that I know) get bored of the same old thing. Watching porn can give them ideas. It can be fun to see other people, sometimes! Really, a lot of the time, the porn makes him want a sexual relationship with me even more - he sees it, and he instantly thinks /God, I miss her./

To the OP, and anybody else with this same issue, I think it may not just be an issue with porn. I understand that it makes you feel cheap and cheated: believe me, I totally understand where you're coming from, even if I don't feel it myself.
Sit him down and talk to him. A lot of people aren't comfortable talking about this kind of thing, but it's something that has to be done. And, really, once you become comfortable with one another sexually, everything generally falls in to place.
Talk to him - don't fight with him, and don't let him fight with you - about what kind of things he likes. What are his fantasies? And yours? Are there things that the two of you can agree on, a type of compromise? Maybe porn has given him some interesting new ideas!
There's always a reason, you've just got to calm down and take the time to sort it out. Happy hunting! :P
Good luck.

Feminism is considered "a bad word", as you put it, in these days, because a lot of feminists have taken it from rational reasons of defending themselves against discrimination to provide equality, to whatever they say goes. Porn isn't evil. Men are naturally more sexually stimulated than woman. I know numerous couples who are extremely happy, including married couples, that have a healthy relationship (emotional and sexual), but the man sometimes watching porn and masturbates to it.

It isn't fair to expect a man to be sexually frustrated all of the time when it is more healthy to masturbate at least one or two times a week. I'm not saying as a substitute for, sex, but as a way to release when his partner is not feeling sexual.

Maybe instead of getting irate at the idea of a man being horny, or waiting for HIM to try and invite you to join, you should invite yourself. While he's watching porn, walk in, completely naked, and say "wouldn't you rather fuck this?" and give a flirty wink. I know no man that would refuse. If he does, I think that the relationship has deeper problems.

If you actually love this person, talk to them and work with them, stop the angry accusations of how the recent generations of men are broken because of porn. Porn has been around for centuries.

Take some responsibility for your lover for once.

are you serious??? PORN? porn. PORN is the reason men have been degrading women? thank you for clearing that up. until now, i always thought that it was centuries of a conditioned society made to believe women were a lesser species than men. or the media that depicts a certain image of "what a woman should look like" or "how a woman should act". lets remember that the glass ceiling still exsists, women are still getting paid less than men for the same work, and its within my grandparents lifetime that women were granted the right to vote. who the fuck cares about porn? PORN is degrading in general. theres lesbian and gay porn, which is offensive to me being gay, but i choose not to watch it. theres all kinds of porn that can be offensive to all walks of life. and if your man is really that unhindged from reality, that he cant decide the difference between reality and fantasy...maybe you should pick smarter, better men to date.
your "feminism" is a disgrace to real feminists, and real women everywhere...

i dig feminist gals who are willing to take control...but also, if your man wants to rock the internetz for his fun, then you really need to just step up and show him you know how to rock his world.

Simply put, you are wrong. The first posted response is dead on. Try to remember people are coming here for REAL advice from people that have KNOWLEDGE and EXPERIENCE. Clearly, you're not qualified. People don't NEED different things to become aroused outside of a committed relationship. That's what your partner is FOR. If not? The wrong partner was chosen or settled for. Period. You know nothing about the thousands upon thousands of cases of men that have used porn far too long/often, become hard-wired in their brain to it, (yourbrainonporn.com), and will get to the point that they prefer porn over a real woman. Most of these men, will develop chronic ED and/or PE (erectile dysfunction/premature ejaculation) after some time giving into this ADDICTION. You know it's an addiction if you cannot stop when you want to, and/or ignore negative consequences linked to your sexual behaviors online. Get a clue before you speak poster....please.