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can all hymens be repaired?

By Anonymous September 17, 2010 - 12:02pm
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i want to have my hymen repaired, and i wanted to know if all hymens can be repaired

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Hi Anonymous,
Thank you for your question, and for finding EmpowHER.
Regardless of why you want to have it repaired, there is a myth related to the hymen about virginity. It is said to differentiate a girl from a woman, or a virgin from someone who has been sexually active. In truth, exercise, the use of tampons, and masturbation can break the hymen. Yet, the hymen/virgin myth still is proliferated in some cultures. Here is an article about that:
Having said that, in answer to your question, the option of surgery is available. However, a man will never know you have had sexual intercourse before unless you tell him, so consider for yourself if you truly need to undergo the procedure. It may be a waste of money designed by doctors who know there's a market out there. Should you have the procedure and not tell, or just not tell? You decide.
Here is a similar question and the responses she was given. Hope it helps:
Good luck and let us know how you are.

September 17, 2010 - 12:53pm
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Anonymous (reply to Christine Jeffries)

wwll, i wanna have it done cuz of a culture reason.. im getting married in december, and if he finds out that im not a virgin he wont marry me.

September 17, 2010 - 1:51pm
HERWriter Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hi Anon

A "repaired" hymen is still no proof of virginity but it's your option to do this. You can do a search online or ask your doctor for a referral. Remember to make sure your doctor is well-qualified and certified.

Is your fiance a virgin? Does he have to somehow prove that to you?

September 17, 2010 - 1:57pm
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Anonymous (reply to Susan Cody)

yeah, my fiance is a virgin.. but he doesnt prove it to me, guys cant prove it, can they?

September 17, 2010 - 2:00pm
HERWriter Guide (reply to Anonymous)

No, they cannot Anon, you are right.

I just want you to understand that a woman cannot either. The notion that an intact hymen is proof of virginity was an old tactic to scare women and punish them for perceived "moral" wrongdoings. The truth is that many women have lost their hymems well before they lost their virginity - for many reasons - using a tampon, bike riding, horse riding, gymnastics, climbing trees or many other kinds of activities.

I don't want you to to be led into believing that what you are told is true. It may be a cultural belief - but it's not actually the truth.

Oh and make sure you use cash or money order when paying so you can have this procedure done in complete privacy. It sounds like you are nervous and you need to make sure you are safe.


September 17, 2010 - 2:07pm
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