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Can't orgasm, Physical or Psychological?

By December 26, 2011 - 5:59pm
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I'm in my first relationship and after a few tries I discovered that I couldn't relax enough to let myself orgasm or my body would just stop just before I reached the climax. I had some abuse as a child so I don't know if this problem is from that or because it was my first time. Did anyone else have this problem with their first time? or does anyone have some suggestions for me?

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I too suffered sexual abuse and have never been able to orgasm. I have personally come to the conclusion that it is because of the abuse. I feel as if I get to that point, like I'm standing on the edge of a cliff, but I just can't take the plunge, I can't jump off and enjoy the fall. I suppose I haven't fully healed like I thought I had. More than ten years later and I realize it's still having an effect on my life and in my marriage.

January 8, 2012 - 11:08pm

A history of sexual abuse or rape is one  main cause of orgasmic dysfunction. Orgasmic dysfunction is the term used when a woman cannot reach orgasm or has difficulty reaching orgasm when she is sexually excited.

Physical reasons include the use of certain medications like Prozac, Zoloft or Paxil.  Medical condition such as multiple sclerosis can be a cause.

It is very likely that your past history of abuse can be preventing you from enjoying an orgasm.

How is orgasmic dysfunction treated? Following a physical examination and obtaining a medical history, a physician can pinpoint the cause.
Treatment can involve education, cognitive behavioral therapy, teaching orgasm by focusing on pleasurable stimulation, and directed masturbation.


December 26, 2011 - 6:34pm
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