I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years now. 3 years of it have been long distance and we are finally living in the same place. I am applying to medical school for next year which will probably entail moving to another city. I was certain that once I moved back here and my boyfriend and I were in the same place, that the long distance would be over. (Wasn't 3 years long enough?!?) He is finally getting comfortable in his job and often speaks of how great it would be to stay put longer and become better at what he does. While I understand how he feels and would agree that it is a good idea, I can't help wondering what will happen when I get accepted to a school in a different city. I am NOT ok with returning to long distance. I love being in the same place and think that we have a great relationship - it is comfortable and we are very compatable. My fear is that he will be ok with it being long distance again so that we can both focus on what we want. I feel like we've been together long enough that we need to stop this living in different cities. I want us to be real parts of each others lives. Is this an irrational fear? I know that my boyfriend loves and cares for me deeply, but he is also passionate about his job (and for good reason). His passion for his job is one reason I admire him so muich, but I wish I knew for sure that he didn't want to return to long distance. He doesn't like the idea necessarily, but he doesn't come out and say it like I do. What does this mean about his feelings for me?
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