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Could he be bi curious

By September 6, 2014 - 1:23am
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my bf acts so homophobic and is the type of guy that wont let anyone in his world but after after a year of trying to get his comfortable sexually (still only scratching the surface there) but main getting him not so self conscious and been able to lay naked with me. i notice he loves it with i spoon him and deeply thrust my groin into his backside he will even push back and he I don't he dumps me as to hint to do it. I can feel that me doing this makes him hard but unsure how to go about this. Could he be bi curious? Should I lightly introduce slight back door play when doing things? By the way his shy and young and I'm female of course and I'm the 3rd girl his ever been with. All advise welcome as I'm open minded but this is a serious question not a joke.

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Hi Gypsyhaze,

Thank you for reaching out to EmpowHER with your question! 

I don't think that the fact your boyfriend has trouble connecting sexually necessarily means he is bisexual. Like you said, he is shy and young, so I think that is more the cause of the issue. He may be very shy about engaging sexually and might be nervous about what to do exactly. If he is shy and doesn't have a lot of experience in this area, it is possible he might be self-conscious about it.

I think it is important to have an open conversation with your boyfriend about this. Conversation is key to a healthy relationship. I would set some time aside this weekend or early next week to talk to your boyfriend about your concerns. Keep the conversation open and non-judgmental. Putting your concerns out on the table may also help him feel more comfortable with your sexual relationship. 

I hope this has helped! Please keep us updated and let us know if you have further questions.


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