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By June 10, 2010 - 12:53am
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my LMP was may 8, 2010 and im expecting it to come today (june 10) the 34th day. my past 2 cycles were both 34 cycles. but how come i dont have my period yet? i had a contact with my bf last may 22. i dont think im pregnant because he didnt pop it inside me (yes withdrawal) plus i dont think im fertile during that day. i have to wait til tomorrow before buying a pregnancy test kit. aside from pregnancy im also considering a lot of factors that im not sure of. ive been sick with cough and colds for the past 2 weeks already. ive been taking iron supplements and lots and lots of vitamins every morning morning and this morning i started taking my anitbiotics and anti-asthma/mucolytic ddrug. i also tried to do exercises for 4 consecutive days and my diet; ive been avoiding rice and i eat little compared before. can these things be factors of my delayed mestruation? i dont really want to consider pregnancy because the idea of it kills me. is it possible that i get my menstruation tomorrow? on the 35th day? isnt that a long wait already? abnormal?

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i've already taken the pregnancy test and it says negative. up to now, my period hasnt arrived yet. :( worried..

June 11, 2010 - 11:31pm
(reply to janelle)


I'm glad the pregnancy test is negative. That tells us that it is very very unlikely that you could be pregnant. My guess would be that the stress, the illness and the antibiotic affected your cycle somewhat, and if you didn't get your period over the weekend, you probably will this week.

In general, there is not just one or two days when a woman needs to avoid sex. Here's why. Let's take a normal cycle of 28 days. Yes, ovulation would probably occur about day 13 or 14. So you would want to avoid sex on those days. But sperm can live in the body for 3-5 days, so you need to avoid sex for at least 3-5 days BEFORE you ovulate. And your egg can live for 24-48 hours, so you need to avoid sex for at least 1-2 days AFTER ovulation. This means that your "fertility window" is actually around 7 days, beginning to end, when you have a chance of getting pregnant. Because our cycles are always just a little different from month to month, you can see why it's difficult to anticipate just exactly when it's safe to have sex.

One thing that stays relatively stable is that we tend to ovulate about 14 days before we start our period. So if your periods are 34 days apart, it is a good guess that you are ovulating somewhere aroung day 19-20. That would mean you would need to avoid sex at least between days 16 and 22 to be extra careful about that fertility window. Of course, if your cycle changes during the month and you don't know it, your calculations can be all for nothing.

I'm sorry to hear that you and your boyfriend both have issues about birth control. I'm very sorry that he won't take responsibility and use condoms. However, because of this, you really need to take responsibility to protect yourself. Clearly you are scared of becoming pregnant, and the fear and anxiety are not good for you. If you don't have a doctor you can see, did you know you can go to Planned Parenthood for a checkup and to talk about birth control? Just go here:


and put in your zip code, and you can find a health center near you. It is completely confidential, won't cost much, and will be an important first step in protecting yourself.

Will you consider that?

June 14, 2010 - 8:48am
(reply to Diane Porter)

thanks diane! im happy to share that i got my period already last june 14th. i know my cycle differs from month to month so it's really gonna be hard to trace the safe days. since my bf wont use condoms, im considering taking pills it's just that im scared that my appetite might increase and i'll become bigger. for the mean time i think it's best to consider abstinence until i finish my last year in college. the link is much of a big help, thanks!

June 17, 2010 - 5:22am
(reply to janelle)

Congrats, Janelle.

Please do either consider abstinence or some form of birth control if you do not want to become pregnant. Also keep in mind that by not using condoms, your boyfriend could spread STDs. I suggest you be tested just to be safe. Undiagnosed STDs can wreak havoc on your reproductive system, causing a lifetime of pain and even prevent you from having children later.

Good luck to you.

June 17, 2010 - 6:59am

Hi Janelle

You may still get your period. Most of the things you mentioned can affect your cycle. Honestly, it seems like just about anything can change it up! I will say withdrawal is not a dependable form of birth control, and you can become pregnant that way. If you do not want to become pregnant, you may want to consider a more reliable birth control method.

Menstrual cycles change a bit from person to person, month to month, and year to year. Some people have a pretty dependable cycle, but your body does not use a clock like we do, so the cycle is not usually down to the minute or day all the time. A few days either way is totally normal, and if you have stress or other things going, it can vary more than that.

We have a lot of information and discussion on this topic that may help you: http://www.empowher.com/condition/menstrual-cycle

Thanks for visiting the site and taking the time to write. If we can help you further, please let us know.

June 10, 2010 - 6:46am
(reply to Cary Cook BSN RN)

thank you cary! just to share, i already bought pregnancy tests which i will use tomorrow morning and along with that i bought napkins LOL i dont feel pregnant, but i just want to make sure. i hope that at the end of the day my period comes. yeah, maybe im just too sick. oh and my breasts are painful which is a sign that my menstruation will be soon arriving but as the internet says, it can also be an early sign of pregnancy. this is stressful ugh. thanks again for calming me down :)

June 10, 2010 - 8:00pm
(reply to janelle)

Please let us know when your period starts, or if you take a pregnancy test.

Are you interested in learning more about birth control options, so that you aren't worried next time? Withdrawal method does work for many couples as a birth control method, but it is only about 75% effective at preventing pregnancy at its best. Condoms are about 98% when used correctly, and there are many other options as well!

Take care, and please keep us posted!

June 10, 2010 - 8:24pm
(reply to Alison Beaver)

i know about birth control methods it's just that..i dunno maybe im just too stubborn and my bf doesnt like using condoms which is sad. may i know more about fertility alison? there's a notion that girls are prevented to have sexual contact on their 14th day but that's not true right? im really confident that during that 15th day of my cycle where my bf and i did it im sure i wasnt fertile.

i will let you know the result of my frog test asap! thank you.

June 11, 2010 - 7:27am
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