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Do I break up or let my future be?

By Anonymous August 24, 2015 - 10:39am
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Hi I have been with my fiance from September 2014 till now and we have got engaged in February so we've been engaged for 6 months. He and i had just gone out of 5 year relationships. I just found out that he has met up with his ex in november, October 2014 which is us being together for 2 months. Apparently she had forced him and threatened him to meet up with her because she's always suicidal so apparently he got scared so he met up with her. Her ex has tried committing suicide before and was hospitalised. I also found out about an email that was sent by him to his ex only 2 weeks before we got engaged. In this email it's written that he misses his ex and his always thinking of her, his upset that he has just left her and that she shouldn't worry as me and him are broken up. I classify these both things as cheating on me . He says that he did not write that email to her and he reckons she has played around with his email account and sent her self typed up messsages. And I don't know if I should accept him in my life and have trust issues for the rest of our lives or let go of him now. What will be the most ideal? Is this cheating and does it still count as cheating if he was scared of her killing herself?

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Hi Anon

Thanks for your post and I'm sorry this has happened to you.

We can't say what's true and what isn't. Nobody can "force" your fiance to do anything. And you only have his side of the story.

Regardless of what is true and what isn't, your fiance is hiding things from you. He's not being honest. I don't know if she really hacked into his account and wrote those emails to "set him up" but it's all very suspicious. If your fiance did meet with her and nothing was going on between them, why didn't he just tell you?

Something is going on and these two seem to know it but you don't. Cheating is cheating, regardless of why.


August 25, 2015 - 4:06am
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