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emmotional instability cos of falling in love with another man outside my marriage.the relationship was just emotional attachment.i can't break off.help me.

By November 10, 2011 - 7:28am
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thank you so much.i love your advise.we are fighting it out together already.but i realised i equally loved him so much.by the way,i have made up my mind to quit.

November 23, 2011 - 7:57am
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I am trying to avoid people who are so emotionally attached to me.
He will do things that he will regret someday.
I used to be so emotionally attached to some man, I would do anything. Now I knew if I did I would regret.
Get your hubby involved and get rid of him.

November 23, 2011 - 7:04am

yes.i learn a lot and i have so much regret.we started as ordinary friend until now when he 's becoming part of my life.he knew my house,number.changing my number will affect my work cos am an accountant.we have an emotional affair and i hope it wont go beyond that.he once collapsed and fainted when i asked him never to contact me again.he is in a mess emotionally cos of me.

November 11, 2011 - 6:02am

yes.i told him about it.I REALLY WANT TO MAKE MY MARRIAGE WORK COS I ALREADY HAD 3 KIDS.but this other man wont let go of me.i broke up with him several times already but he kept on coming back.he told me point blank that i will have to kill him to stop him from being in love with me.am stuck and confused.

November 11, 2011 - 12:44am
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Hi Precious,

This other man is pretty dramatic. Does he know where you live? If not, change your number and stop seeing him. If he knows where you live you may have to get the police involved. Cheating on your spouse is never a good idea because things like this tend to happen. I truly hope you learned from this mistake.

November 11, 2011 - 5:25am


When you say you can't break it off, is it because you feel attached to both? You said it was "just" emotional-- but if you fall in love with someone it is a STRONG emotion. 

Unfortunately, someone's heart will be broken but you cannot keep tugging at both of them. If you are in love with this other man then you need to let your husband go. If you still love your husband and want to make it work, then the other man needs to be out of the picture. Either way, one person cannot be in your life any more. Does your husband know about this?



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