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He says he loves me but has been ignoring me and wont have sex with me hardly anymore?

By July 4, 2011 - 4:58pm
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we have been together almost a year, im a 27 year old woman, he is a 22 year old man. i know he loves me and i am hopelessly in love with him. i thought dating a younger man would mean he could keep up with my libido. he has absolutely no stress right now. i wait on him hand and foot, and his job is a cake walk. he is really into his car. and his friends. but im kinda just in the way all the time. he takes off without sayin a word all the time. i know its not my appearance...im not being concieded but im pretty and really sweet and take care of all his lil friends like they r family. used to have sex atleast once a day now im lucky if i get it once a week. im afraid its going to get even longer inbetween. i cant handle this rejection. i dont think he is cheating, only place he ever dissapears to is auto zone or oriellys. i cant even get him to look twice at me in lingerie and if i try being aggressive and climb up on him he just says im busy lookin on the computer for car parts or im busy texting joseph...im not a jealous person but this hurts my feelings.

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Well, he was honest with you. The choice is yours...live with things the way they are, live around the lack of sex or live without him.

July 6, 2011 - 5:28pm

well he has very openly told me before that thats one of the things he loves most about me. when i was working instead of staying home he hated it cause he wanted my cooking and wanted the house clean the way i clean it and the laundry to smell like it does when i do it. he wants someone to take care of him. maybe its because his mother never did. we talked last night. it took allot for me to open up. he said he is attracted to me and loves me but he is just burnt out on sex. and he only ever attempted sex at bedtime cuz thts the only time he likes it. but its not boring....hes just burnt out. i dont get that. and he says he cant explain it any better than that.

July 6, 2011 - 10:12am

Just to chime in, although you may think that being waited on hand and foot by you is what he wants, this may actually be a turn off-- the last thing a 22 year old guy wants is a woman that reminds him of his mother. Don't get me wrong, yes men look for qualities of their mom in a woman but they certainly don't want for their girlfriends/wives to treat them like their mother. It sounds like you are both not on the same page and unless you come to a happy middle with him and talk about it, it probably won't change.

July 5, 2011 - 12:06pm

i know that he is not as mature as i am, i also know im kinda playing the role of a mother. i dont mind taking care of him or his friends. we have plans to get married soon and i have a 2yr old son he is in the process of adopting. i just dont get the whole thing about him just not wanting to have sex. just last month it was an everyday thing. now i cant get him to look at me naked and i get rejected throwing myself at him.

July 4, 2011 - 5:59pm

The five year age difference between the two of you can be the cause of the problem. Your boyfriend at age 22 may not have reached the level of maturity and commitment to the relationship that you are hoping for. By taking care of his friends and catering to his every need, you are acting like his mother.

July 4, 2011 - 5:09pm
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