Please help. I don't want to appear unsympathetic - I am - but I'm equally frustrated and angry. I have the most wonderful partner of 4 years. We had an incredible sex life for the first 18 months, having sex multiple times in one session etc - and then it started to dwindle off, which I expected and reluctantly accepted. We now have sex only about once every 5 days (yes I'm counting) and I now know my partner is taking Viagra every time. I don't think he was until about 18 months into the relationship when we had a few unsuccessful attempts at love making. My obvious upset and feelings of rejection would have put pressure on him I'm sure.
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Hello Stelly,
Welcome to the EmpowHER community. Thank you for reaching out to us with your situation.
I am sure you will hear from members, each with a different suggestion.
My input is to talk with him about it. I strongly believe in communication, and we cannot read other people's minds. Share how you are feeling. Keep your emotions in check. I know not easy. But if you lash out at him, he will become defensive and the conversation ends.
If you can find out the why, you can both work at fixing it.
Regards,
March 8, 2017 - 9:48amMaryann
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Thanks for your reply MaryAnn - regretfully talking about it isn't really an option - that's when he gets defensive and he almost gets to the stage of quitting our relationship - I think leaving me would be an easier option than actually talking about it and admitting there's a problem. His pride wouldn't allow it.
March 8, 2017 - 10:35amMy issue isn't so much that he's got ED - I'm aware it isn't his fault - my issue is masturbating and using porn behind my back, instead of being intimate with me. Saddens me.
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