my best friend is going through hard times, lost a job, his engagement went to pieces shortly afterwards and his fiancee left him for this super rich guy (and my impression is that she's been seeing this guy for at least 6-7 months), he doesn't have much contacts with his family since years now and he really wanted a new one with this girl.. so he's wasting away, drinking, smoking, pot also, not eating or sleeping or showering even. he goes out of house just to get booze and cigarettes. i'm the only person he's talking to. he admitted me he's having suicidal thoughts, sometimes he'd say things that sound like a farewell or asking me if i liked his camera and his chess board (things he loves the most) and that maybe i should have it..
..now i spend a lot of time with him because i'm afraid he might do something stupid, i even sleep over at his house often (and came to the point where i have to lie to my boyfriend i am sleeping there because i spend most of my free time with my friend, my boyfriend doesn't really know how bad the things are and would definitely get annoyed if he knew, but i can't tell him all this. my friend never made a move with me in our entire lives, so it's because me and my friend hiding an affair), i also have a job since just a couple of months and i'm trying to do my best there but this is really making things hard for me. sometimes i get 2h of sleep a day because i spend a night talking to my friend until 5am and then i'm up at 7 going to work.
i can't tell anyone what's going on, my friend is asking me that all the time because he doesn't want people asking questions, he isolated himself completely, his ex gf won't talk to him at all and won't even reply my emails where i asked her for help openly.
as much as i love my friend i can't bare this responsibility alone, i'm only 26 (he's 30 and he's been like a brother to me) nad it's all getting out of hand.
there'v been days he told me he wants to turn himself in an institution but then he'd never go although i tried to convinced him that it was the best for him. is it possible for me to turn him in? or i would need to wait for him to attempt to do something???
please help me because i feel like he's sinking and taking me down with himself.
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