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Is there really such thing as a sexual peak when you hit at a certain age? I have been pretty promiscuous since I was about 19 years old and I am now 32 years old and my sex drive becomes higher and higher every year. Is this normal?
I always hear men complain that their women do not like to have sex and within a group of my friends, there are only two of us that have high sex drives. Can someone clear the air about this subject?
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I think there is a sexual peak for men and women. As far as women not wanting sex, well maybe the sex thier having, is'nt worth having. You get what you give.
January 26, 2010 - 11:21amThis Comment
A couple of weeks after my 41st birthday, my sexdrive went through the roof. About 7 - 10 days out of the month I call it "the fire" happens. It affects me emotionally, physically, and mentally. Its not enjoyable because I can not be satisfied. At times it consumes my thoughts all day. Can anyone relate. Does this have anything to do with menopause? My thoughts are out of control at times, what can I do?
January 20, 2010 - 8:03pmThis Comment
Can you explain more about what you mean that your "thoughts are out of control" at times?
Are you currently in a sexual relationship?
You said that your sex drive is not enjoyable (I'm not sure what "it" means, unless you mean actual sex is not enjoyable), because you can not be satisfied.
I am not sure what you have tried, as far as being satisfied (hence the question about being in a current sexual relationship), on the emotional, physical and mental aspects. Do you feel that this occurs during certain times of your cycle, is it during certain times in your day, or when certain triggers occur (any occurrence in your relationship, at home, at work, in the car, certain sight, smell, sound, touch, etc.).
Are you able to turn any of this sexual energy into another type of energy that can be exciting, positive and productive?
I hope to hear back from you, and we can talk about this more.
January 21, 2010 - 2:17pmThis Comment
It started right after the split of my marriage. I am single, but have benefits with my ex. There are triggers, they could be anything. Sometimes it comes out of no-where, then my thoughts are about sex. It can last all day, and is very distracting. I call this the fire, and it lasts for up to 10 days out of the month. I pleasure myself, and an hour later, its back. I"ll have great sex, a couple hours later, its back. There is at times passion, but no emotion. That may be the problem, even though what Im feeling is very physical. From what I have read, there are certain times of the month when testosterone is high. My heartrate is much faster, and my focus is affected. I do my best to distract myself. I can actually feel when it decreases, cause I can breathe easier, and feel much more feminen. I wish there was someone who could say," I know what your going through." I dont want to lose my sexdrive, just learn to deal with it better. tnx.
January 26, 2010 - 11:50amThis Comment
i know exacly what ur talking about!
July 26, 2011 - 4:27pmi am only 25 but never had much of a sex drive in my past....been with my new man for almost a yr now and i find myself always thinking about it,i feel that i aanoy him when i want it coz i want it so much!
i find its becoming a bit of a problem coz its always on my mind....and well his drive is well not that high...im always the one starting things off
i just wish i could learn to deal with it a lil better...i find gym is a good out let to relese sometimes though
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I have never posted anything before but I have to tell you that I go through exactly the same thing, which is why I was just researching high sex drives or "peaks" in women. I'm 36, divorced about a year and half ago, and started experiencing this about 2 months ago. I simply give up during my menstrual cycle, what I refer to as my "horny week". To have a higher sex drive during my period, though, has been happening for quite a while and has been getting stronger since I went off the birth control pill for health reasons. But in the last month or two, it isn't only that one week out of the month. It feels like I am wound up 24/7, like I'm all ready to go and just need a partner (I'm not seeing anyone and have occasional sex with a guy friend when all else fails). It IS very distracting and very frustrating...because nothing can satisfy you. I joke to my friends and say, "I should have been a guy." I'm so glad that someone else can relate to this, but I feel for you for having to go through it. I have been looking for an explanation as well.
January 29, 2010 - 8:54pmThis Comment
I am turning 30 this month... I have had a high sex drive since I was...9 or so. I was interested in woman since I was 6 for as long as I could remember. I have masturbated since I was 8. Through my young teenage years I found myself masturbating more and more, then when I hit my upper teens, I had sex at 18. When I joined the military my sexual desire increased 10 fold. I have always been a very sexually active guy even till now. I am re-married with three kids, and my current wife has lost total interest in sex after our third which was her first born... she reserves Saturdays as ,y " relief day" where she really does not interact much with me to make the moment count. We use to have sex back to back three times in maybe 2 hours. 5 times a day maybe was the norm.
I unfortunately have this overwhelming desire that even when Im doing y college work, sitting in bed, reading whatever it may be, I get a sexual urge that I "HAVE" to get ride of so taht I can think straight. It is as is the sexual desire takes control of me and I will do almost anything to maximize the arousal. I.e talk to old Girlfriends that had interest in me, x- wife that was interested in me. I do not want to cheat on my wife, however, the urge is so great, I have this desire to seek out someone that wants me as much as I want it. After I climax, I feel like I am returned to normal and can think straight, ethically, morally and logically.
I am really starting to think there is something wrong with me. When I see my wife's body, I am aroused imminently. I just want to make love to her, hard-core, soft-core...anything that will get the fluids flowing and orgasmic volcano's erupting. Almost like a porn star. My wife thinks there is something wrong with me now as well, because I want sex so much... is there something wrong with me really?
I have fantasies of double penetrating her, or even inviting another guy or gal of her choice so that multiple orgasms will soar. Secretly I think she like woman, but she loves men too...she married me not just for the sex, but because I treat her like a woman and love her.
I just don't know what to do anymore... I'm so afraid my sex drive will plummet one day and hers will CLIME and I wont be the man she needs me to be...:(
January 6, 2012 - 12:44pmThis Comment
Wow I thought I was the only one who felt this way....I'm 23 and in a relationship with someone who has almost no sex drive at all. About 1-2 days a week I get in the mood and when I ask him if he wants to be intimate he turns me down. He says its not because he's not attracted to me but that he is not a sexual person. For some reason the week right before I get my period my sex drive is out of control, it's really the only thing on my mind and I'm determined to be satisfied. I try to explain what's going on to my boyfriend and he doesn't understand he thinks I'm crazy. And then if we don't have sex that week I get so frustrated to the point where I feel like cheating but cant bring myself to do that. I really don't know what to do I don't want to leave him but I'm not happy and the talks we have on this subject go nowhere...
December 27, 2010 - 10:13amThis Comment
Wow wow wow..... This is exactly me my husband is in jail and physical fulfillment is not even an option. I have cheated twice but I am determined not to ever again. Masturbation is so not as effective anymore, and during the month when I get fertile according to my ovulation period, I get this high high sex drive where I almost feel like I am going out of my mind, and it gets that serious during my fertile days. I thought I was crazy or something.
April 27, 2011 - 5:38pmThis Comment
I have always enjoyed sex but as of lately my sex drive has increased, but the actual acts of sex have not. My boyfriend who is 27 yr and I (33yr) use to have sex atleast 5 imes a week and now I am lucky if we have sex one time a week and I almost have to guilt him into pleasuring me orally. I am not intrested in having an affair but masterbation is getting old. We have had plenty of talks but I believe that he thinks our "talks" are just that talks. For me it's a true out cry for help. I dont want to believe that he is having sex outside of the relationship, but I dont know how to explain the drop in sexual activity. I welcome any suggestions.
January 6, 2010 - 1:09amThis Comment