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HIV/STD risk?

By April 3, 2016 - 7:04pm
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Friday night I decided to try oral on my boyfriend for the very first time. I did so for about 25 minutes and there was only some pre-cm. We've been together for a very long time but just for reassurance purposes before I did anything I made sure he was clean. He said he got a shot or 2 preventing against something (I'm not sure what it is) and was tested. And in the past he has given a blood donation.
Saturday morning I woke up and for whatever reason decided to look in my throat and I freaked out completely because I noticed on my left side of my throat (back towards the uvula on the soft palate) there was a halo of red with a slightly whitish ring inside of it. I immediately started looking stuff up on google and narrowed it down to two things: oral herpes or I got HIV from there being a sore in my mouth that I didn't know what it was from.

I thought to myself some more & forgot a couple of days ago I had a sore throat only on the left side and it hurt when my tongue would rub against it when I swallowed but I honestly didn't even think to look in my throat when it was hurting. So idk if it was there before or not. It has gone down in redness since yesterday.
Now may I add that we are both virgins, that is the very first sexual thing we have EVER done on anyone, we do not share needles or never have shared needles with anyone else, have not came in contact with an infected persons blood, or was not born into HIV/AIDS. I'm just so confused and worried that I could have something wrong with me. Does anything pose a risk? Sorry this is so long!

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Hello Cosgirlkay,

Welcome to the EmpowHER community. I am glad you reached out to our community with your concern about the risk for having contracted a sexually transmitted disease.

From what you have shared, you do not appear to be at risk. The area at the back of your throat that is causing you concern may simply be the sign of a sore throat, strep throat at the worst.

Oral herpes is commonly referred to as “cold sores” and “fever blisters.” While symptoms of oral herpes most commonly appear on or around the lips, oral herpes is not always limited to this area. For some, symptoms may appear between the upper lip, on or inside the nose, or on the chin or cheek. In these instances, herpes is referred to as oral-facial herpes.

By performing oral sex on someone who has genital herpes, it would be possible to contract oral herpes – but this is rare. Most cases of genital herpes are caused by HSV-2, which rarely affects the mouth or face.

You should not assume you have HIV just because you have any of the symptoms associated with HIV. Each of these symptoms, such as sore throat, fatigue, and mouth ulcers, can be caused by other illnesses.

Cosgirlkay, if this area in the back of your throat gets worse, persists or you develop other symptoms, such as fever, difficulty swallowing or swollen lymph nodes, please contact your primary care physician. If you have not been vaccinated against HPV, now would be a good time.


April 4, 2016 - 7:00am
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Well I currently have swollen glands in my neck, but I do believe it is from my allergies. I have drainage In my throat too.
But the area in the back of my throat is actually starting to clear up.. So if it was herpes or something would it be getting better like it is now?
One more question, say that someone is exposed to someone's bodily fluids through a cut or a sore or each other's body fluids are exposed through something such as the mouth, nose, etc, who does NOT have HIV... Does it always mean they have a risk of HIV? Or is HIV an "if and only if" one person has HIV. If that makes sense
Thank you!

April 4, 2016 - 8:54am
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