How can I fix it????

Karina,

I'm so sorry you're going through such a tough time in your relationship. I have been there before and I know how it feels.

From reading what you write, I get the idea that you feel needy, and that part of your desperate feelings about keeping your boyfriend have to do with that need. I have to tell you, Katrina, that is rarely attractive to someone else. It often makes people pull away. I think it's important for you to realize that, should you and your boyfriend break up, you would be perfectly fine. You would cry and be sad, of course, but you could make it. You could. You would figure out how.

Can you think about that? Can you see that a woman who is fun and somewhat independent and secure in her own self is more attractive and more fun to be with?

Having said that, I want to say that in order for two people to grow closer, both of them want to do it. It cannot be just one person trying to make everything all better. You say you know it can work, but do you think he feels that way? Does he seem happy when the two of you are normally together?

You talk about being down, and crying all the time. Is this just recent, or have you been like this for a while? Is there a possibility you are dealing with depression, which can change your behaviors and your mental state?

How old are the two of you, and how long have you been together? Have you discussed a longtime commitment?