When I first met my boyfriend, he was a porn addict. I am really against porn, not for moral or religious reasons, but because I feel that it demeans women and lessens the desire for one's partner. There are other reasons but I won't go into them. We have come a long way as a couple; we have an amazing sex life, he hasn't used porn in years and we get more and more into each other every year. He says that he doesn't miss porn. He feels that his sex life is the best in his life.
My problem? I trust that he is done with pornography, but even though we have agreed as a couple not to masturbate when we are parted(we are only ever parted occasionally and never for more than a few days), I always have to ASK him if he has. He is a very truthful guy and I know would be honest if he had laspsed. I know that on some level, my asking repeatedly is a controlling behaviour. At this point, I need to trust him, let it go and stop with the questions.
Please help me to do this. Any advice is welcome.
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