im 21 and have been in a two year relationship, but so far i have not been able to go through with intercourse, i know your thinking wow two years!? is he crazy? we love each other very much were both old souls if you like, and we are intimate in other ways but i just cant get my head in a good place where i wont assume it will be very painful, my anxitey mostly comes from close friends who lost their virginity much younger who said i would find it very painful because i have a low pain thresh hold, which always annoyed me because eversince i have been terrified to try, i really want to be intimate in that way with my partner it is very frustrating, because they find it funny that i cant and dont realise how much thier words are responsible for my problem, plus i feel this tremendous guilt because i havent been able have sex yet even though my boyfriend has been so supportive and understanding but even i think two years is enough for both of us! so the added pressure on myself isnt helping to relax either im so worried that ill never be able to do it and he will eventually say he cant be in a relationship without sex no matter how much he loves me, which i couldnt blame him for at all. i feel like a freak i just want to relax enough that the special moment of it finally happening between us will outweigh the worrys of the possible pain and not knowing what to expect
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