How do I get over the hurt?

By Anonymous July 31, 2016 - 1:29pm

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This is difficult for me to open up about. I've been married for nearly 4 years. About 6 weeks after the wedding I found out my husband had been having what I can only describe as an emotional affair. As far as I know it never became physical. He called and texted and met up with this other woman frequently and without my knowledge.
I suspected something was wrong and found out about it when I looked at his phone bill, email and Facebook messenger. I also discovered at that time that he was suffering from depression.

We got him help for the depression and he's fine now after a very rocky road. We have also worked through what happened, he broke contact with the woman, I also spoke to her. He opened up his phone, Facebook, email etc to me but our sex life has never recovered.
I think it's because I love him and trust that nothing will happen again but I'm still hurting. My self esteem has taken a major blow. We met young... I was 17.. And we were together for nearly 11 years when we got married. Then a few weeks later he breaks my heart. He was very sorry and devastated when he realised what he had done to me.
I just don't know what to do... How do I get over the hurt... It's been nearly 4 years. He has expressed concern about our lack of a sex life but I just can't seem to get things back on track. We have a very affectionate relationship and cuddle a lot but no sexual intimacy to speak of. It's been 5 months since we last had sex.
I don't know if I'm even making sense. I'm just so confused. Any advice would be welcome!