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How do i stop being so obsessed with my boyfriend? :(

By December 23, 2010 - 2:36am
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I am 23 and this is my first proper relationship,its been three years,in the beginning i was cool and casual and not bothered and i was confident and thats why he fell in love with me. but then i became clingy,obsessed,i now have low self esteem and im not the same girl anymore.we are close to breaking point,he loves me but he cant take it anymore.if hes annoyed with me,he walks away and says he wants his own space but i start to panic and follow him around everywhere trying to get us to make up but it ends up making it worse and makes him more angry with me.

I've made him my world so whenever i think we are going to break up,i feel like i cant breathe,i start to feel dizzy and feel like my whole world is going to collapse.I want to be near him constantly,always kissing him, always staring at him, wondering if he still loves me etc..
am i just immature or do i have some self esteem issues? i always think if he leaves me nobody will ever love me cos i love him so much..and this is making us both miserable because i want to be normal and happy.

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Thanks. Ill let you know :)

March 2, 2011 - 1:55pm

I like to bike ride and love to swim. I like vollyball. Things like that. Summer activities.

February 28, 2011 - 3:10pm
(reply to Shell1403)

You have great interests....and since you also like spending time on the computer, do some research on these topics (I just provided starting points). I think you may be pleasantly surprised! :-)

1. Winter cycling. If they can do it in Alaska...you can do it anywhere!
http://www.allweathersports.com. Visit this site to learn more about the sport, find an active group in your area, look into equipment (did you know there is actually a product called Snow Cat rims for bike tires to ride on the snow?!) It sounds really fun, and I bet you would meet some adventurous people in your area.

2. indoor swimming. Find a fitness gym or facility that has indoor swimming; take a class or improve on a technique.

3. Winter sports: try something new! Cross-country skiing is a good all-around activity, and could be good cross-training to help you increase your fitness level for swimming, cycling and volleyball.

4. Meetup: www.meetup.com is a great place to meet people with similar interests, and some groups are very specific by age, skill level, interest, neighborhood, whereas other groups are more broad and include a variety of people.

Let me know what you find that peeks your interest enough to give it a try this week! :-)

March 1, 2011 - 10:44am

I dont really have any hobbies. I just sit and play computer games :(
The things i like to do are durring summer weather and its snowy here. I dong do much durring the winter.

February 27, 2011 - 1:11pm
(reply to Shell1403)

What do you enjoy doing during the summer/warmer weather?
What are your interests, or curiosities?

February 27, 2011 - 2:25pm

Yeah. I have an appointment in april. Sadly its that far away.
Ill try to keep you guys updated with how my provress goes. Right now im on vacation from school and im not feeling that jealous but ive spent most my time inside so i dont see any other girls. But me and myboyfriend are trying harder to make eachother happier and feel more important. It makes a big difference.

February 26, 2011 - 4:04pm
(reply to Shell1403)

What are you doing with your time inside the house?

What things are you doing to make yourself happier? What interests, hobbies or activities do you really enjoy?

February 27, 2011 - 9:17am

Are you guys not going to reply anymore?

February 23, 2011 - 7:27am
(reply to Shell1403)

Do you have any further health questions?

Have you set up an appointment with a counselor yet? If not, please call today and let us know!

February 24, 2011 - 9:27am

I'm constantly worried about other girls hun! i get so jealous if a pretty girl walks past us in the street i always think hes gonna notice her but i am trying my best to ''bite my tongue'' ,i try to think before i speak now ,it avoids arguements!
and i have stretch marks on my boobs (cos they are quite heavy, 34dd/e,i wish they were perkier :( and i have them on my thighs too)
i have been trying to rub palmers cocoa butter into them which over a few weeks does help reduce the appearance of them , and i know lots of people do use this so i reccommend it xxx

February 15, 2011 - 3:56pm
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