Improved
6112 HealthChanged
3786 LivesSaved
3568 Lives0 lives impacted in the last 24 hrs Learn More
It might sound weird that I am still virgin in my 27. I am a single woman and I am in a relationship now. I was raised in a culture where getting pregnant outside of marriage is a big taboo. This social stigma makes me afraid too much when it comes to sex. I always think that sex will only makes me pregnant and suffering, therefore I avoid it.. Some people say that women must be virgin until wedding day. My problem is that I am in a relationship with somebody who was raised in total opposite culture where sex is not a big deal, where sex is not supposed to be done only within a marriage. He is still waiting for me until I am ready. It's already 1 year relationship and I still cannot overcome my fear. Everytime we try to make love, I always ignore him to intercourse. We only kiss & hug by far. Deep down my heart, I am very afraid of pain of first sex. Some people say that first sex is painful and stressfull. This information only makes my fear becomes deep and deeper. What should I do ??? Is it true that first sex is painful and how to overcome this fear ??? I already knew about some contraceptives, so there is no more big worry about getting pregnant. But still I cannot do this even I already use contraceptives. I always think that first sex is painful and I don't know what to do... I am hopeless
All user-generated information on this site is the opinion of its author only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions. Members and guests are responsible for their own posts and the potential consequences of those posts detailed in our Terms of Service.
Add a Comment1 Comments
Hello and than you for sharing your question.
Having sex for the first time is not painful as long as you do these two things.
1. Make sure you are properly lubricated. Your body produces a natural lubricant when you are aroused, but sometimes it is necessary to use additional lubrication. You can use oils or choose any lubricants sold at the grocery store or drug store or even sex shop. You can also do a search online for quality lubricants.
2. Stay relaxed and trust your partner! Since boyfriend is more experienced and he cares for you, feel comfortable to communicate what you are feeling while having sex.
The more you education yourself about having sex the more comfortable you will be to do it. I understand your concerns doing something you have no experience with, also with the idea that it will be painful. But I can assure you that you do not need to go into it blind. So go online and research until you feel confident.
Faith
May 10, 2015 - 6:42pmThis Comment