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I didnt bleed my first time, having sex.

By Anonymous April 26, 2011 - 8:38am
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Hi recently I had sex with my boyfriend and i didnt bleed. It hurt a lot when i first had sex but i didnt bleed nor feel any pleasure. after we had sex the first time we had sex more and more and i still dont feel anything . why is this happening? am i abnormal :(:( i feel bad... is there something wrong with me :(

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thanks. what about me not feeling any pleasure? he feels pleasure but not me.
it feels that my hole is too loose.
but i can feel pleasure with one of his finger, when he fingers me.

April 26, 2011 - 11:06am
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Since you are able to feel physical sensation and pleasure from his finger inside your vagina, you may need to give sex some more time and practice. There are so many reasons that you did not feel pleasure during your first sexual experience, and it could have been your expectations, anxiety or nervousness, or simply the sexual position.

Try some new sexual positions, and experiment with the physical sensations of each. If you felt that you were not lubricated enough ("wet"), you can also use some lubrication that you purchase at the drug store, and see if that helps with sensation.

Give it some more time, as well as make sure your mind AND body are both relaxed and ready for pleasure in the physical and emotional sense...and see if these suggestions help.

April 26, 2011 - 11:25am

Many, if not most, women do not bleed during their first time having sexual intercourse. It is a myth that women are "supposed" to bleed during first intercourse.

You are completely normal, and please just make sure to use birth control (including condoms) to continue practicing healthy behaviors!

April 26, 2011 - 9:51am
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