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i got married for 1 year..and still we dont have sex because of my fear.please give advises to reduce my fear about intercourse

By Anonymous May 12, 2015 - 12:36pm
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I'm not a professional, but here is my opinion:

What you're afraid of is the unknown. You don't know if it's going to hurt and if so how much. You don't know if you're going to like it or not, or to what degree. The thing with fear is that it grows and grows until you actually DO IT. Once you grit your teeth and take the plunge, so to speak, you will continue to fear the unknown. Once it becomes known you won't fear it any more. Trust me - you'll love it!!

Remember - this is your husband. Someone you can trust implicitly. Don't let yourself deny him when you get to the point when fear intrudes into your intimacy. Just say to yourself, "No. I won't let fear control me. I want this as much as my husband does."

June 4, 2015 - 9:42am

Hi Anon,

Thank you for sharing your question with the EmpowHER community.

The best thing to do is for you to talk to your doctor and get a referral for therapy.  I'm sure your spouse will be happy to see you taking action.

I hope this helps.

Be well,


May 12, 2015 - 3:05pm
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Anonymous (reply to S Gillette Palmer)

we have already consulted doctor many times. they said everything is ok with you.but am unable to reduce my fear.i have feelings but i cant shoe it during intercourse.can u suggest me that to which type of doctor i need to consult.
appreciate your reply..

May 12, 2015 - 8:24pm
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