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I haven't had a period for 3-4 months, very stressed out, how can I get my period back?

By Anonymous July 20, 2009 - 7:13am
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I am 26 years old and in good overall health. I stopped using NuvaRing in March, 09 because I was prescribed aldera to treat HPV symptoms. After I stopped using NuvaRing, I did have my period one time. However, ever since then I have had no period. There have been several times where I thought I was going to start because of cramping and back aches, however, I never did. I quit using the aldera because it was very painful, but did not start using the NuvaRing again. My wedding is coming up on August 29 and we are also in the process of trying to sell our home. My job is also very hectic right now. I did take a pregnancy test after skipping the first month, and it was negative. I've always been irregular since starting my period at age 16, but never missed 3 months in a row. I've also never been under this much stress. What is going on with my period and how can I make it come back? I"m worried about the stress being relieved once my wedding gets here, and then starting my period and having that to deal with on the honeymoon. But I'm also worried that I won't be able to get pregnant when we want to, if I'm this irregular!

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Hi, Anon, and welcome to EmpowHer. Thanks so much for your question!

I found this on Planned Parenthood's site about NuvaRing:

"After ring use is stopped, it usually takes one or two months for a woman’s periods to return to the cycle she had before using it. Once in a while, a woman may have irregular or absent periods. This may go on for as long as six months after stopping. This is more likely if her periods were irregular before using the ring."

Here's that entire page:

So you're normal! Don't worry so much about it, and by all means don't let it add to the rest of your stress, because that can affect your hormones as well.

Stress before a wedding -- especially if your job is also going nuts -- is really hard to deal with, I know. Try to take just 15 minutes a day to decompress, by yourself. I don't know where that 15 minutes can come from, but it might be getting up 15 minutes earlier to do nothing but sit by the kitchen window with a cup of coffee and your planner, or it might mean a 15-minute walk at lunchtime. You need a small amount of time to breathe.

I know what it's like to fear the Evil Gods of Period Timing. You have two choices here -- ask your doctor if you can re-start birth control now, before your wedding, or just wait it out and decide that if you do have your period on your honeymoon, you'll live with it and be fine.

As far as getting pregnant with irregular periods, there are ways to make it much easier. You learn about your cervical mucus, watching it for signs of ovulation, and you can chart your body temperature in the mornings with something called a basal body thermometer. After charting it for a few months, you learn to recognize the slight temperature dip that happens just before you ovulate, which then sends your temperature back higher.

Do you hope to conceive very soon after you get married? Or to use other birth control between now and then?

July 21, 2009 - 9:05am
(reply to Diane Porter)

Thank you so much for responding, this does make me feel much better! We would like to wait about a year prior to becoming pregnant, after getting married, but we also don't want to use birth control, other than the "pull out" method. The way we look at it, if it happens, it's not the end of the world and that's what was meant to be! However, with the new additional stress of trying to sell the house and relocating, I just may reconsider that and get back on birth control after all! Thanks again,

July 21, 2009 - 11:29am
(reply to Smeyer)

You're so very welcome. Enjoy this special time as a bride and have a wonderful wedding, OK? And an even better marriage. Diane

July 22, 2009 - 8:38am
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